What's wrong with not missing MOM?
Don’t get me wrong, I appreciate my mother, but I just do not miss her while I’m in college. I do miss her Jamaican cooking—the way she cooks her Oxtail and Ackee and Saltfish. I miss having my own room where I can sleep naked if I wish. I miss not having any responsibilities, but to text my friends, and watch Grey’s Anatomy. I miss many unessential things, yet my mother is not one of them. While here at UAlbany I can honestly say I've only called my mother twice, and both times were to get money. I just don't feel the need to call her, unless something is wrong, so I cannot comprehend why this is just a big deal to many.
The relationship I have with my mother is not a traditional one. My mother had me when she was only 17 years old, which is a huge responsibility at any age. She left me to live with my aunt, while she went out to work to provide for me. I would always have everything that I needed and then some. I would always get the best clothes, and the Nintendo that I wanted. Whenever she would call I would never want to speak with her not even to say thank you. I never thought about her, only about the things she would buy. I never felt any closeness towards her, or had that mother daughter connection that some girls rave about. She was just someone that bought me things. All that time away from her made me use to being away from her so being away at college is not difficult.
Whenever I tell someone I don't miss my mother I'm met with faces filled with disbelief and pity. Well I do not need pity I am completely fine with the relationship I have with my mother. I realize that this may be hard for some to understand, but not every female has a close relationship with her mother. I appreciated all that she has done for me; I just do not miss her while she is away. Maybe it’s because I know that she will always be there for me no matter what, or possibly I'm just a heartless person, unable to make that connection-- hopefully I'm not the only one.
