When do you speak to someone? When do you stop talking? When do you stay silent? What battles do you pick to fight? What do you say? These are legitimate questions that we should all take the time to reflect on. The famous words found in Ecclesiastes 3:6 tell us that "There is a time to be quiet and a time to speak." There is a reason why people dwell on this passage of Scripture.

Words that are spoken can hurt. They can tear relationships apart. The phrase "I was only kidding" is a prime example. How many times have you been guilty of using this one? How many times have you said it to cover up your rude or ignorant comments, especially when they are aimed at one person in particular? How many times have you said this and actually been lying? How many times have you said this to the people who are closest to you?

Before you speak, remember that people can hear you. Remember that those people can also speak, and have the ability to repeat your words to others. Sometimes your words may seem appropriate in one setting, but if they were used in another, they would seem completely out of line. Does it make you uncomfortable to think that you have the power to hurt others with the words you speak?

Words that are spoken can bring restoration, healing, comfort, and encouragement. How much more powerful are words spoken with a pure spirit? Words said with good intentions have potential to positively impact the people around you. We must realize, however, that those that are full of envy, spite, argumentation, and pessimism have the power to do the opposite. Both influence the people surrounding you. Someone is constantly setting the tone in every situation. Your attitude shines through in the words you speak. Be careful to say what you mean in a way that is respectful: everyone has feelings, and everyone is susceptible to having their feelings hurt and mood altered.

Words that are spoken can divide families and friends. They can cause pain.

Words that are spoken can pull people together. They can bring change.