I often wonder sometimes why people say something to someone they are friends with or even dating, but do the complete opposite? To me, if you say you are going to do something, then you do as you say, not the other way around. Throughout my life I can say I have struggled with this type of situation before where people I once cared about had promised me or told me things that never happened. Instead of following through on what they originally were going to do, they didn't do it all. For me, actions speak louder than words; you can say to me all day long you will be there for me and you won't go do this or that, but until I see you actually doing it, then that means something.

I believe as individuals that we all go through things in life that shape us into the person we are today. There are many hardships and failures we face in order to get to the place we are at, and throughout this journey in life there are disappointments from people we had high expectations for, but in the end it was nothing we hoped it would be. Whether you are in a relationship right now or talking to someone, there is almost always an expectation of something happening. A lot of this comes from caring for someone and willing to do anything to make them happy, because you want the same to be reciprocated.

It is always nice to hear when someone says they like you and care about you, but then the next day they don't text you or you don't hear from them in a week. With this: you aren't sure what is going on or what to do, because, after all, they said they liked you, right? Trying not to pay attention to them not talking to you, you have shown you care about them, but with their actions it doesn't feel that way. I have always been a strong believer in if someone truly cares about you and wants to be with you, then they will show you and not tell you. This is a piece of advice I think every young woman or even man should take with them.

Being in a new relationship or friendship is so much more than saying you will do something and "I'll see you tomorrow;" it is actually the doing that is what makes a difference. To many people you care about, they can say the most perfect things and say everything you want to hear, but their actions say something totally different. In that, I believe what they are doing is actually what they feel. Maybe to others words mean more, but to me, the things you do and your reactions to certain situations speak volumes. You are worth so much more than empty promises that are never ending. So continue to do what makes you happy.

"Actions prove who someone is. Words just prove who someone wants to be." -- Anonymous

"Sometimes you don't need to hear their excuses or what they have to say themselves because their actions have already spoken the truth." -- Anonymous