We often forget the power of our words. As an avid writer and reader, I strongly believe in the influence of words. We all heard the expression, "sticks and stones will break my bones, but words will never hurt me." Is it true though?
The significance of words is often weakened next to the power of actions. Yes, actions are powerful and do have influence over people, but we tend to forget that words have more power than we'd like to realize or even admit.
If we are being honest, we've all been hurt through words directed at us. Regardless if it be written or spoken word in any way, shape, or form, words have broken us all down at one point or another. I am sure you can recall at least one time where stick and stones seemed harmless compared to something said or written towards and/or about you.
One thing I have never been able to understand is why people would use something as powerful as their words to intentionally hurt others. That time and energy being used to belittle and harm somebody could better be used towards building them up and supporting them.
If we thought and spoke more kindly and less vindictively, the world would be a much better place than it is today. There is something special about dignifying another person, which probably because it happens less than it should.
I'm not suggesting that we should engage in meaningless words of flattery. In fact, sometimes the best thing is not to say anything at all. This goes back to the old saying, "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say it."
Do you remember being taught this lesson in elementary school? Yes, whether you actually do remember or not, children are being taught this vital life lesson at such a young age, and yet it rarely sticks with them. I see adults struggling to gage this concept every day.
I understand we all have bad days, and I understand that everyone is fighting their own battles. However, neither of those things give anyone an excuse to hurt others, to make them feel less than anyone else.
Unfortunately, most people do not have the strength to stand up for themselves and the words aimed towards them make them bitter. My advice to you is that you should never let these words get to you, abide by the words, "kill them with kindness."
So, even if somebody is rude to you, or uses their words to try to hurt you, do not let them. Seeing how upset you are will only fuel them to keep using their words to hurt others. Do not use your words to try to hurt them back either. Learn to smile and ignore their harsh comments.
Be the bigger person and take away their perception of power. By reacting respectfully, you demonstrate your inner strength and self-control. Do not give them a taste of their own medicine, but instead, show them what respect is like.
Do all things with kindness and make your words mean something positive. You will find that life is more pleasant, and so are the people in your life when you speak words of kindness.
