Words don't always come easily. Often times, it's because we're fighting off nerves about how the other person will react. Sometimes, it's also because we're afraid of either getting hurt or hurting someone else. Because of this, some of the most important words aren't always said. However, those words need to be expressed and heard because the weight they carry can change a situation for the best.
"I messed up."
When you know you've hurt someone, it's not easy to admit to it. However, if that person is important to you, it's vital that you acknowledge your mistake and take responsibility for it. Also, make sure you don't make the same mistake again.
"I'm sorry."
Sincerely apologizing can take a lot of courage. Not only are you saying you fully understand that what you did was wrong, but you're also saying you would take it back. An apology is what sets the stage for forgiveness, allowing you both to move past what happened.
"I forgive you."
While an apology takes courage, forgiveness can take much more strength. If you've been hurt, especially by someone you deeply trusted, finding it in your heart to forgive that person can be very difficult. While forgiveness allows you to move on, it doesn't require you to forget and return to the relationship you once had.
"I don't trust you."
It's not fun to say this, and it sucks to hear it. Trust is not always easily given, and it's even more difficult to regain once it's been broken. However, this may need to be said so that both people are on the same page.
"You've changed."
This can be meant in a good or bad way. In the worst cases, it's a condemnation of estrangement. It lets the person know if he or she is no longer the one you loved and trusted.
"I miss you."
Sometimes, circumstances create space between you and a loved one. You spend less time together and realize you're missing parts of each other's lives. Depending on the current state of your relationship, it may not feel appropriate to admit to missing one another. However, saying these words is important because it acknowledges how much you value the relationship and the person as an individual.
"I love you."
The famous three words. When first spoken, they give the other person a new joy or confirmation, but they can be terrifying to say if you're not completely sure how the other person feels. Saying this also puts you in a vulnerable position that you'd typically want to stay away from, especially if you've been hurt before. Despite all this, you may get a response that makes it all worth it.
"I love you too."
Loving someone is great, but knowing the love is mutual is even better. Learn to be unafraid of expressing love. There is always a risk of getting hurt, but think about how much you'll miss out on if you shy away from sharing your true feelings with someone you deeply care for.
There are many more words that we may never say, but should. There are also words we should say more often. We could work on saying more nice things to people and learning to be less afraid of all our emotions.
No matter what you say, though, remember that the true weight of your words is reflected in your actions, and your words have little value when your actions contradict them. Therefore, as the saying goes, say what you mean and mean what you say, and don't let what's going on in your head get in the way.
