With Valentines Day approaching all of us quickly, there are a lot of different feelings and emotions going through different people's minds. Many are planning big elaborate days for them and their significant other. Some are in a new relationship so they are trying to decide the best, most corny way to celebrate their first Valentines Day together (this is the case with my younger brother and his girlfriend of about 5 months). Many are just buying cards and flowers for their significant other (this is typically what my parents do, after 20 years of marriage).

But there are also many people preparing for another Valentines Day single, or even worse, their first Valentines Day without someone. This is something I have never had to do, but I have watched friends do it, and I have actually spent Valentines Day with one of my best friends on her first Valentines Day without her ex. It's an awful thing, and it hurts a lot from what I've seen. It's hard seeing all of the sappy Facebook posts about Valentines Day when you don't have anyone on Valentines Day.

But here's the thing a lot of people do not even think in their state of many emotions:

We are not posting all over social media to rub our relationships in your face.

With Valentines Day so close, I see a lot of negativity on Facebook surrounding the holiday, and it's typically status' saying something like:

"Everybody is all excited about Valentines Day, and I'm over here, single."

or

"Oh, you have somebody on Valentines Day? What's that like?"

And these posts always have rubbed me the wrong way, even when I wasn't in a relationship.

I have never posted about my fiance on Valentines Day thinking "gee, so-and-so is alone on Valentines Day, I hope they see this."

Yes, I understand being alone on Valentines Day sucks sometimes. I feel for that. But don't take it out on the people who have somebody. We are just happy and enjoying our days. And I don't think anyone should have to apologize for that.

So my answer to "Oh you have someone on Valentines Day? What's that like?"

It feels pretty damn good.

It is so great to have someone who shows up at my doorstep with a dozen roses, a huge stuffed animal, and my favorite candy on a day full of love. It's a great feeling to have had the same man for the last four Valentines Days. And I will not apologize for enjoying his company on Valentines Day.

So go ahead and be upset if you don't have somebody on Valentines Day. That's okay. But don't try and make me apologize for the fact that our situations aren't the same. Because I won't.