I am a woman, and I do not consider myself a modern day feminist. I know, many of you are probably already judging me but go ahead and judge away. I don't judge anyone for their views, and I know some of you may judge me for mine, but I'm okay with that. So if you do care to stick around, let me further explain myself.

Before I begin, when I say I'm not a feminist, it is because I don't identify with modern day feminism. I believe in building other women up, supporting one another and working together. However, I feel that feminism has become more of a way to blame men for our problems and exile other women who don't fit the mold they want for their modern day society, and that I just can not get behind.

Ever since I was little I wanted to be a stay at home mom, a housewife, a home maker. Lately though, it seems to be "unacceptable" for me to feel this way. It's unacceptable to want to be a princess and have a knight in shining armor. Why you ask? Well because I don't fit into the standard that is set for how women of today should be; i.e. strong, independent, breaking glass ceilings and all that. But just because I feel this way does that make me weak and dependent on a man? I'll answer that for you with a resounding NO.

I was raised by the strongest and most independent woman I know - my mother. She has always taught me to depend only on myself and to always boost others up. She has taught me to be strong on my own, not to take anyone's crap and to stand up for what I believe in. And just has she taught me these things, so has my father.

Modern day feminism has become more of a way for women to put down men in order to build themselves up. Do I agree women should get equal pay to men? Well uhm duh, women are awesome. We carry human beings INSIDE OF OUR BODIES and then give birth to that human being and through tons of pain still manage to survive. So that being said, we are not to be f***ed with. If I see unfair treatment towards a woman, or towards any person for that matter, I will make sure I say something as I have been raised that way. But that doesn't mean I categorize all men as evil chauvinistic creatures who only know how to think with their penises.

Okay so yes, some men do fall into this category and unfortunately I have had the opportunity to meet men who do fit that description. But that doesn't mean I'm going to label all men in that category. I have also had the pleasure to meet men who are kind, supportive and wonderful to women, much like my father and my boyfriend. That being said I have also met some really terrible women who are judgmental, catty and plain out bullies. Just like I have wonderful men in my life I also have plenty of strong and amazing ladies by my side.

Feminism has become an excuse for woman to feel a certain way and then blame the opposite sex. Is sexism alive? Yes, of course it is. But that doesn't mean that every single man is a sexist pig.

We have come such a long way as a gender, from not being allowed to vote to having female Supreme Court judges and a possible future woman president. We have broken through glass ceilings and have taken the corporate world by storm creating businesses and showing men that we are a force to be reckoned with. But that career path isn't for every woman.

I do not want to break glass ceilings, I do not want to be in Forbes magazine, and I do not fit into this present day mold that women have made for one another. Ostracizing someone who wants to be a mother, a home maker, a wife, does not say feminism. It says judgment, it says catty, and it says sexism. I will not call myself a feminist because I refuse to fit into the modern day mold of how a woman should be.

Feminism is saying that you are free to be who want to be, a teacher, a lawyer, a CEO, a mother, a politician, whatever you'd like. Feminism is women encouraging one another to do well despite our struggles as a gender, not saying that men are the problem. Society is the problem, stereotypes are the problem, and we are overcoming these struggles each in our own way.

I love being a woman, and I love women. If a woman told me they want to be a CEO I would say you go girl, kick some ass! And if someone else told me they wanted to be a maid, or a wife or a mother I would say the same exact thing. I support my gender, and all people for that matter, and think they should be whoever and whatever they want to be.

So in summary, I won't judge you for your views, so stop judging me for mine. I am a proud supporter of women everywhere, corporate leaders, home makers, and the unbelievably strong women who are able to do both. I will fight for equality and I will build myself up. But I refuse to do that at someone's expense, even if they are a man.