One thing that consistently drives me CRAZY is when women tear each other down and insult each other for no reason. I’m not sure if doing so makes them feel better about themselves or what, but it needs to end.
For example other women’s clothing is not affecting you at all. I often hear girls who dress conservatively disrespect girls who aren’t dressed in a lot of clothing, and I don’t see why. If someone wants to show off their body, they have a right to do so. On the flip side, if you frequently dress scandalously, there’s no reason to insult women who don’t. Modesty empowers some women, while others are opposed to it. It’s not your place to tell other women what to wear or judge what makes them feel confident.
Some women like to stay home and raise a family, while some want to single-handedly run a business and never get married. Some women want to have a full-time job while raising a family and need to put their child in daycare. Some people have their parents babysit their children because they don’t trust daycares or can’t afford them. Some women become mothers at sixteen, some women become mothers at twenty-five, some women become mothers at thirty, and some women never become mothers. But NO women should judge the choices of other women. Every woman should have the choice to raise their children however they want--or to not raise children at all.
Some women wear makeup every single day no matter what, and some refuse to wear it in any situation. Some wear it just when they feel like it, and all of this is okay. Many women feel that makeup is their way of expressing themselves and that it is fun to wear to show their personality through their style like many people do with clothing. Other women feel that it is covering them up, and forcing them to be someone they’re not, which is okay too. But one woman talking behind another woman's back because she wears too much or not enough? Not okay.
There are countless examples of this problem occurring because unfortunately, there are countless ways that we judge other human beings. Newsflash: anyone can do whatever the hell they want, so you may as well support other women instead of tearing each other down. If we can’t stand up for our fellow females, how do we expect men to follow our lead?
You can tell when someone is a strong, confident woman because she is constantly building up other women and encouraging them. Women who have issues with themselves internally are the ones you can still find tearing down other women over issues that don't affect them, and this happens because they lack the self-confidence necessary to help other women.
The media, our culture, whoever you want to blame--has created this myth, this completely fake world where female friendships are somehow seen as toxic like they need to include gossip and fake friendships and talking behind each other's backs, but that's not the reality. This myth is put into place to keep women "in their place" and there's no need for that. When we help other women, we help all women. When we empower other women, we empower ourselves.
