Women Don't Need Husbands To Be Godly

Reading The 30 Rules For Being A 'Godly' Woman Made My Eyes Bleed

I don't remember learning this in religion class.


So I recently saw this, um, interesting post on my Facebook timeline. It's a pretty straightforward list of ways a woman can be "godly" in her relationship. I'm not going to lie, this post made my brain shut down momentarily, as it couldn't comprehend the stupidity it was witnessing.

First of all, let me state the obvious; this post gives women 30 rules to follow while only giving men 13. Right there is a red flag. But let's dive into some of these rules, shall we?

Right off the bat, the first rule is to never raise your voice to your husband because it's a sign of disrespect. I'm a firm believer that if you have to constantly raise your voice at your significant other, you two should probably not be together. Regardless, what is a woman going to do when her husband is raising his voice at her? Sit there with her head hanging down? I don't think so.

Rule number nine tells us to not be a wasteful wife, that our husband's sweat is "too precious to be wasted." I have no idea what that means, so I'm assuming this post would like me to jar my husband's sweat. Maybe they want me to give it to him for a drink in his packed lunch for work or something? I don't know; I'm lost here. I mean, rule 25 tells me to greet my husband when he comes home with a glass of water, so maybe that's when I use the sweat. I don't want to be wasteful!

The whole list is pretty crazy, but rule 10 is my favorite. It tells me to never fake an illness to deny my husband sex since sex is extremely important to men. It goes on to say that no man can withstand "sex starvation." I figured there would be a rule like this eventually. I agree with this rule though, you shouldn't fake an illness to deny sex, you should just say "no" and leave it at that because your husband is a grown man and you have free will.

This post gives me a mixture of blood-boiling fury and pure entertainment. Here's my point in writing this; I don't believe submitting to a man makes a woman "godly." Nowhere on this list did they mention doing good deeds in the name of God, or taking time to read the Bible and pray. These are things I learned in my many years of religion class, as I worked towards receiving my sacraments. Never in my church did the priest or youth leader tell me that in order to make God happy I'd have to submit to a man and let go of my own identity.

The worst part about this post is that young, impressionable women are reading this and listening to it! Instead of drilling this bullshit into their heads, we should be teaching young women to build their faith under their own individual identity.

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17 Empowering Bible Verses For Women

You go, girl.

We all have those days where we let the negative thoughts that we're "not good enough," "not pretty enough" or "not smart enough" invade our minds. It's easy to lose hope in these situations and to feel like it would be easier to just give up. However, the Bible reminds us that these things that we tell ourselves are not true and it gives us the affirmations that we need. Let these verses give you the power and motivation that you're lacking.

1. Proverbs 31:25

"She is clothed with strength and dignity and she laughs without fear of the future."

2. Psalm 46:5

"God is within her, she will not fall."

3. Luke 1:45

"Blessed is she who believed that the Lord would fulfill His promises to her."

4. Proverbs 31:17

"She is energetic and strong, a hard worker."

5. Psalm 28:7

"The Lord is my strength and my shield."

6. Proverbs 11:16

"A gracious woman gains respect, but ruthless men gain only wealth."

7. Joshua 1:9

"Be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go."

8. Proverbs 31:30

"Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised."

9. 1 Corinthians 15:10

"By the grace of God, I am what I am."

10. Proverbs 31:26

"When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness."

11. Psalm 139:14

"I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made."

12. 1 Peter 3:3-4

"Don't be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God."

13. Colossians 2:10

"And in Christ you have been brought to fullness."

14. 2 Timothy 1:7

"For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline."

15. Jeremiah 29:11

"'For I know the plans I have for you,' says the Lord. 'They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.'"

16. Exodus 14:14

"The Lord himself will fight for you. Just stay calm."

17. Song of Songs 4:7

"You are altogether beautiful, my darling, beautiful in every way."

Next time you're feeling discouraged or weak, come back to these verses and use them to give you the strength and power that you need to conquer your battles.

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Ghosting Is Not Only Annoying, It’s Childish—Get Your Act Together And Respond

It's time to stop ignoring conversations.


The term ghosting is defined as the practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication. (Also, how sad is it that it actually has coined definition.) Whether you are ignoring your co-worker, friend, tinder match, mom, I can guarantee you that everyone, at least once, has ghosted on someone.

And it's understandable. That's how our society is built now. If you don't like something, you stop using it and move on to something else. If you don't want to be in a conversation, you ignore it and move to the next conversation. But when you begin to do that with every conversation, you are no longer communicating. You're just being childish.

Ghosting is easy because if you don't like how the conversation is going, you can just exit out of your messaging app and pretend it never happened. But the problem is that the other person that's involved with that conversation can't pretend like it never happened. The intention behind the ghosting is still there. Whether you are mad at that person, feel uncomfortable, or just don't want to listen what the other has to say, the receiving communicator will still know what you're feeling because you can't think of a response. The "ghoster" just couldn't face their issues and decided to hide behind a screen. And that's infuriating. If you can't handle the responsibility or responding, you shouldn't be able to start a conversation at all.

Of course, it's easier said than done, but we need to get back into the habit of finishing conversations. We need to be able to face our problems and know how to communicate them to others. We need to understand true interaction if we want to be able to have a real relationship with other people. So stop being annoying. Stop being childish. Respond.

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