As women, we have some struggles that men never have to face. We have challenges that a man will never have to overcome. And during these battles we should have other women on our side giving un-ending support. It is hard enough out there as a girl, and even worse when you are let down or put down by other women.
I see it all too often: girls competing for guys, putting each other down to build themselves up, and women disrespecting other’s privacy, hearts and feelings. We are becoming our own worst enemies and this has to stop.
To the woman who lets jealousy drown her support for other women
Do not be jealous of another woman’s success, bask in it! A victory for another woman is a victory for you. Jealousy is nasty and has no place here. We all fail every day. So, when one of us finally overcomes an obstacle, be supportive and share her pride! Do not let your jealousy darken her light. I promise, letting someone else’s success fill you with joy is 1000 times better than being bitter.
To the woman who took the man’s side
Breakups, rape, arguments, abuse, you name it. Every day another woman finds herself an outcast as her peers take the side of a man without knowledge of a situation. Whether it is the friend who took your ex’s side during a nasty breakup, or the bystanders who claimed a girl was “asking for it,” these people are not doing what is right. With the challenges thrown at us every day we should be there ready to fight for each other, not to add to the opposing army we already face.
To the woman who invaded another woman’s privacy
Most of us girls are social butterflies and love a good moment of attention, however we all have our feelings and moments that we don’t want to be shared. To insert yourself into another woman’s private thoughts and share them in any way is wrong and disrespectful. Women need somewhere to retreat and be alone with their thoughts and you know this! Never intrude on this. It is kind of the same thing as not reading someone's diary when you were younger.
To the woman who broke another woman’s heart
There are enough guys out there doing this already, we don’t need each other’s help. And yes, a friend can break your heart -- sometimes, worse than a guy can. Never break another woman’s heart. We tend to open up to our friends in ways that we don’t with boyfriends. Be trustworthy, loyal and kind. We need each other’s love and friendship just as much as we want to be cared about by a man. We are supposed to be there to put each other back together. Love each other and don’t leave broken women in your path.
To the woman who puts down other women
You are beautiful and so am I. And so is the girl across from you right now. We all have something incredible to offer to the world. Women are judged so harshly by men and the media already, why do it to each other? Your job as a fellow woman is to make each woman you come in contact with feel beautiful, important and cherished. Trust me, we already spent an hour in the mirror picking out our flaws. You don’t have to do it as well.
Ladies, lift each other up. Life isn’t getting any easier for us. Be on each other’s side, unfailingly. Protect your fellow woman’s accomplishments, heart and self-esteem.
We have a long way to go, and need each other to get there.
