One of the biggest problems that I see from day to day is the way that women constantly work to tear other women down. We look for all sorts of reasons to degrade each other and then turn around preaching feminist ideals and how women should stick together. Feminism is the advocacy of women’s rights on the grounds of political, social, and economic equality to men; it is not the right for women to hurt each other in order to make themselves look or feel better in front of men. It's hard enough having to fight everyday for equal opportunities to men, why do we have to make it more difficult by constantly fighting each other?
Nowadays, the paradigm of a modern day feminist is built upon a woman who has to degrade other women to give herself the power and confidence to then find reasons to complain about men. In a world where everything seems to be against us, we need to be there for each other in order to fight for all of the rights we are denied.
When a skinny artist writes a song about having confidence in her figure, we go and complain about how it's wrong that a size 0 preach about body image. But then another woman will sing a song all about self confidence for thicker women that purposely excludes the opportunity for thinner girls to feel good about their body image as well. We shouldn't focus on debasing the body type that we don't have, rather we should be supporting each other and working to boost everybody's self confidence, not tearing anyone down.
When a girl doesn't see herself in a relationship and she chooses to not be serious with men, that's her own decision to make. If she likes being with different people, instead of staying with one person for a long period of time, it is in no way the right of anyone else to shame her for that decision. We each have the right to choose for ourselves what makes us most comfortable and happy. What we don't have, is the right to make fun of or hurt other people because the decision that they make isn't one that you would make for yourself.
We have to be there for each other because the world is already set to be against us. We complain about each other and we complain about men, that's a hell of a lot of complaining if you ask me. Let's cut the bitchiness and be each other's friends. If you see a girl going for a guy, cheer her on, tell her she looks great. If you see someone who has contoured makeup, compliment her on her technique, because God knows how difficult that is. Support each other, don't degrade each other.
