In today’s society we have become all too familiar with dealing with broken hearts and relationships. We have lost friends due to relationships, and we have even sometimes lost ourselves because of a relationship. A large trend in modern day is to jump into a relationship as quickly as possible, and then there’s the other side, where all you have are hook-ups and friends with benefits. However, the common similarity of all those is that the outcome of being with someone you love and care for is happiness. Relationships, usually equate to happiness, and while that is OK, it is not necessarily something people should depend on.
Sometimes in life, there is a void to be filled, and there is an impression on society that relationships will fill this void. That is not particularly true, however, because sometimes the key to filling the void is right within yourself. I am in no way knocking relationships, in fact, I think a healthy relationship between two people is extremely important. But I feel as a society we are missing out on opportunities to make ourselves confident and strong individuals.
Before and during a relationship it is important to know yourself. Know your likes, know your dislikes, and just genuinely know who you are. Do the things that make you happy, and don’t rely on outside individuals to do it for you. Be confident in who you are and what you do. Love yourself and your life so much that when that special person comes along you are confident and proud to allow them in. But when they are in, never lose yourself and what you believe in.
When we enter a relationship, there is always the question in our mind whether this is temporary or not. While some may be, and some may not it is important to build a foundation within yourself that will remind you that you will be OK regardless. There is no one on this earth that knows you better than you know yourself. Don’t allow someone you allowed in your life to make you believe they know you better. Be happy with yourself, your abilities and your strengths so much that you are ambitious to share them with someone else.
I often think about if I have a daughter one day, and what it’s going to be like when she takes her first boyfriend home to meet me, or the first time she gets her heartbroken. If she is anything like me, I know when she loves someone or something, she will fall headfirst. Nonetheless, I hope I have reminded her enough times to never fill that empty void she may be feeling with a boy that will probably be temporary. I hope she is so confident and happy with herself that when a guy comes around, he is eager to get to know the strong, courageous young woman that she is. But most of all I hope that she loves herself so much that she can share the love she has with another individual because I know that is what will make her truly happy.
