Confidence Is Key

Confidence Is Key

Confidence is beautiful.

Life is like an obstacle course. There are easy parts that are like the inflated slide, but there are bumpy parts like trying to climb up the inflated rock wall but instead falling down 20 times. In order to win the obstacle course against your opponent you need to be agile and fast but also confident.

If life has taught me anything so far, it is to be confident. There are hard times in life regardless of any circumstances. Hard times could be anything from trying to decide a major, the pure act of growing up, moving away from home, or trying to resolve a fight with a friend. We must grab onto the good times.

Cherish the good memories so we remember them on the bad days. Life is what YOU make it. There is good in everything depending on the perspective. GOOD is family, friends, traveling, and discovering the world. Good is waking up next to your dog or your boyfriend. Good is baking cookies with your best friend. Good is jamming out to your favorite song on the radio.

The thing in life that has been the most helpful to me has been confidence. When there are bad times even on those good days, remain positive. Kill people with kindness, and remain the confident woman or man that you are. Confidence is beautiful.

"Fake it till you make it."

"Face everything with strength."

Confidence is arguably the best strength to encompass. With confidence, success will shine through. The key to success is believing in yourself and not giving up. Studying for that chemistry exam I thought I would fail was hard. The best part of it was remaining optimistic with myself and my abilities. The only person we truly have no matter what 24/7 is ourselves. Yes, family and friends are there for us, but the person we should always trust the most and rely on the most is OURSELVES.

"In order to love someone else, we must love ourselves first."

In order to make life the very best we can, we need to start loving ourselves and being confident in the person we are. This may seem like a huge pep talk, but it actually is, that was my intent. We all need a pep talk sometimes. Next time you feel like you can't do something, rememeber you CAN. You ARE good enough. There are times where you may need to fake it but always portray confidence. You will believe in yourself if you tell yourself to trust YOU.

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Words Need Liberation, Not Asterisks

We cannot restrain our tongues but we do strip words of their identity.


You already know what that asterisk is hiding.


You’ve always known. It’s not something new. Why then did I make a failed attempt to hide something so obvious? Am ‘I’ trying to save ‘U’ from some ‘unpleasantness’? It hardly helps.

It is strange, that we say the words in full, but when it comes to writing, we try to hide their identity. We can say the same f*cks and sh*ts when we are upset or high or so f*cking happy that we cannot f*cking control our f*cking happiness, but when it comes to penning them down, we restrict ourselves.

When the words try to make their mark on a piece of paper, we put braces on them. We cannot put reins on our hands and mouths, we cannot restrain our tongues, but what we can do is to strip the words of their identity.

Words, I believe, need justice. I remember when I started writing or trying to write, I used to keep my sentences 'clean,' thinking that my words reflected my personality. Who doesn't want to show a decent version of themselves? That didn't help.

My words and ideas became 'refined versions' of my thoughts, reflecting the person I was not, but was trying to be, ruining my words, and killing my expressions in the process.

Truly, I am in favor of swearing while writing. Curses, I believe, are not bad, but are actually there to help you. Putting them on paper is one of the very few ways (or maybe the only way) we can vent and not hurt anyone, at least not literally.

After so many attempts at 'clean writing,' I have now given up on it. If I were to write a book, maybe one day, you won’t be able to see it. It’ll probably be a children’s book with a lot of sh*t (without the asterisk), that no publisher would be interested in putting the effort to replace the hundreds of damns with darns, hells with hecks, and f*ucks with... Maybe they’ll just want to erase those few hundreds (or more). I don’t hate asterisks. I just don’t like them more than my swears.

Can we get rid of the curses? Can we do without the swears? Or can we accept them, giving them the characters we’ve blurred with the merciless asterisks? We are left with two options here. We can either hold our tongues and vow not to use a cuss word, ever.

Or we can stop fooling ourselves and write them in full. The former we cannot survive with; the latter will demand a lot of effort. Let’s do this. Let’s try to write some f*cking pieces without the f*ucking asterisks. Well, maybe not!

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What Happened When I Ditched Junk Food for a Month

Ditching the chips and cookies are easier than you think

I would say I'm pretty much a typical 20-something. I indulge in sweets, drinking with friends, ordering Dominos at ungodly hours of the night. It's put on me on a rollercoaster ride with my self-image and weight. I've gone through times where I was pretty healthy and times where I was overweight and feeling completely emotionally devastated. After spending 2017 not understanding why I was still gaining weight and feeling down (even though I had gone vegan). As an actor, too, my body is everything. I'm judged by my appearance constantly and my weight is definitely part of that. I'm tall and sometimes I can hide fluctuations in my weight very well but I couldn't hide it from myself. I needed to change.

So after the New Year's party was over, I told myself that I was serious about eating healthy and giving my body what it really needed.

To be honest, the first few days were so rough. All I wanted were chips and chocolate and all the vegan ice cream. I thought, at the start, that I was depriving myself and I was certainly told that as well. I was miserable and feeling guilty over "depriving" my body. I decided to try and stick through it since I had also read that the first three days after changing your eating habits were the worst. It was almost like going through a sort of withdrawal which I think is accurate considering the addictive quality of processed foods and how they're tied to our mood.

After three and a half-ish days, I started to feel clean. After a week, my body started to want the healthier and nutrient-packed foods. I started feeling more energetic as well and satisfied long-term instead of reaching for snacks every half hour or so. After a few weeks, my clothes started to fit better and I felt more comfortable in my own skin.

Of course, weight-loss was a factor in me changing my diet but I found the energy and the increased self-confidence the most important factor. I've also learned, in the time since adapting my diet, that allowing myself time to indulge is perfectly fine. But making 90% of my diet clean and healthy has changed my life for the better.

I thought it was impossible for me to make this change. I was totally against it at first and thought "what's the use? I'm going to fail anyway". That's the first mistake I and many people make when attempting to make a big change in their lives. I thought it would be nearly impossible and that I would fail immediately. But I realized that change takes time and it's more than okay to "slip up". Don't completely deprive yourself but realize how processed food affects your body compared to cleaner foods.

Of course, I won't pass up an opportunity to order a pizza. But now when I do, I notice how it makes me feel and I take my time instead of scarfing down the entire thing. I cook a lot more and though some may think it's an "inconvenience", I think of it as a necessity to keep up my healthy lifestyle and to sustain my happiness and healthiness.

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