Everyone knows long distance relationships are hard and the more cynical people will tell you that these types of relationships never work out. If you are apart from your significant other for too long, you start to lead totally separate lives and drift apart. You begin to argue over little things because of the frustration of not being together and then everything spirals out of control leaving you both heart broken.
After my first long distance relationship ended, I believed this to be true and I still find some truth behind this belief. When younger friends of mine went to college and tried to stay in a relationship with their high school boyfriends or girlfriends I was skeptical and figured they would break up after a few months of trying to make it work. Most of the time this was the case, but there are some rare friends of mine who have made it work throughout college and are still together today.
Even though I do think that long distance can work, if you are with the right person (which is the most important thing), there has to be an end in sight. You can't maintain a strong relationship if you are never going to be in the same place together because one of you or both of you will not be able to take it anymore. No matter how much you love someone, if there is no future plan to close the distance and live in the same place, it will not work.
With all of this being said, I believe that if you are in a long distance relationship it can be very rewarding when you finally get to see your loved one again. Seeing them for the first time after months or weeks of not being together makes the constant struggle of being apart worth the pain and makes the time you spend together even more special. You begin to appreciate your partner more after not seeing them and suddenly, the little things that they might have done that annoy you no longer bother you.
People say that distance makes the heart grow fonder, and this is true on some levels. After being apart for so long and getting through the distance together, you and your partner will feel emotionally closer. Basically, if the distance doesn't kill your relationship it will make it stronger (what doesn't kill you makes you stronger right).
With anything in your relationship, you must ask yourself if this what you want to do. Is this person really worth it? Do you want to make the effort with this person so that when you are together you can pick up right where you left off? If you don't think that your relationship is worth the constant battle of long distance then that is a good indicator that you are not with the right person and it's better that you find that out sooner rather than later. But if this person is someone you want to be with and your relationship is important to you, than your long distance relationship is very much worth it.
