One day, you love him. One day, you hate him. One day, you want to spend your life in New York and the next day, you want California. One day, you want three kids, a husband, a dog, and a white picket fence and the next day you want to be single lady Samantha Jones from "Sex and the City" and live in a penthouse taking weekend trips to the south of France. One day maybe just maybe you’ll have it figured out but until then embrace the fact that you can never decide.

We don’t know what we want. No one goes into a fling thinking it is going to go down in flames (thank - you, Taylor Swift!) We aren’t trying to hurt you, but to us you weren’t permanent. You were temporary, and temporary, to us, is interchangeable. The idea of permanence is scary. Maybe you have had your heart broken, or your best friend has, or you watched your parents get divorced and now the idea of a permanent relationship just looks false to you. If you want us-- fight for us.

Some heartbreaks you may never be able to mend from. If you have had your heart broken, then you know how hard it is to fall again. So instead of falling, we run. We run fast and far away. We could talk to you all day every day for months and then cut you off the next day. You compare everyone to the boy who broke your heart into a million pieces years ago and looking back, you know he wasn’t that great. But to you, he was perfect. You think that no one will ever live up to him and before you can even give the new guy a chance you’re already out the door, because he’s not the same. This doesn’t mean we want you to give up on us, we want you to fight harder. We want you to fight for us and show us that you should be the one holding our heart and not just our hand for a night. We will push you away and drive you into someone else’s arms because we want you to be happy even if it breaks our heart. That’s the sacrifice we take to save your heart knowing what it is like to have yours broken.

So we say sorry because maybe we didn’t love you. Maybe you were just an infatuation. Maybe we loved the idea of love instead of falling for you. You opened up and we came in and stomped on your heart when all you did was open your arms for us. We want to love you but we are all scared of falling. We will all settle one day and if you love her, if you really love her then don’t stop chasing her. There is a fine line between love and infatuation. Maybe she just can’t show her feelings because she never has had these feelings before. She puts up walls so high waiting for someone to knock them down. The longer she is with someone the more that person realizes maybe she really does have a black heart or maybe she actually cares. Fight for her because she will love you one day more than anyone ever has. One day the girl who always changes her mind will fall and she will need someone there to catch her.