The most critical part of my relationship is that I feel like I am dating someone out of my league (notice the key word: feel). When I think about dating someone out of my league, my mind automatically pictures Jay Baruchel with Theresa Palmer. A solid six with a perfect 10. But I’ve learned that attraction is so subjective, and there are far more important qualities people can be attracted to beyond physical appearance. I genuinely feel happy and satisfied with my relationship because I feel my partner is out of my league.
Here’s five reasons why it’s important to view your significant other this way:
1. It Is More Than Physical Beauty
Don’t get me wrong—my partner and I are beyond physically attracted to each other. But there are so many other great factors that influence who we are attracted to. Qualities that make someone special, those including personality, sense of humor, and character, are all vital in feeling like you’ve chosen the right partner. Besides, looks definitely fall towards the bottom in the list of things that you love about someone, once you see how beautiful they really are on the inside.
2. You Will Appreciate and Value Them
The main reason I feel my partner is out of my league is that I definitely value the unique qualities that make him special in my eyes. They are qualities I have never known in anyone else I’ve ever met. Because I appreciate and value them, I do not ever take him for granted. This appreciation only leads to a positive partnership.
3. Your Eyes Won't Wander
When you’re with someone you truly meant to be with, as hard as it is to believe, you won't find yourself looking for anyone else. Your eyes will be less likely to wander, and you will probably be tempted less often. People who cheat are always unhappy and un-dedicated to a relationship. Being with someone you feel is out of your league, will make you never want to lose them. If you know you have a winning lottery ticket, why buy another one?
4. They Will Inspire You
If you want your relationship to last, it is crucial you find someone who inspires you to be the best version of yourself. If you aren’t with someone who pushes you to do better, what’s the point? My partner has so many great qualities that I strive to acquire as well. For example, I adore how incredibly smart he is, so I’ve started using better vocabulary and I check the news every morning. I’m just more aware, understanding, and open-minded than I was before. When you’re dating someone who you feel is too good for you, it will force you to level up. You’ll be able to reach your full potential and they will always keep you on your toes and remind you that you need to work to keep them.
5. You’re Proud to Show Them Off
If you’re not excited about the person you’re dating, something is definitely wrong. If you can't talk about how great they are to your family, friends, and coworkers, why be with them? You should never feel ashamed of your relationship, or feel the need to hide who you’re dating. When you’re with someone you’re proud of, you’ll want to shout it from the rooftops.
