Rewind to your senior year of high school and the boy or girl you shared a lot of your high school experiences with. You sat with each other every day at lunch, studied after school, and they were always your plus one to all the dances and parties you attended. In this time of lust you thought, this is what love should be like and this person is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with. But behind all the kisses in the hallway and between the hand you held was a decision you knew could quite possible ruin your happy ever after. Deciding to take the relationship to the next level by trying to go long-distance in college. Six months later and you are crying in the school supply aisle of Target because you know the person you cherished so much, does not have the same vision of you about your relationship.

I was able to focus on myself in a place where nobody knows who they are.

In college everyone, no matter who you meet, is trying to map the road of life.Think about how are you going to figure your self out if you are letting a relationship define who you are.

I learned the type of qualities I want in a partner.

College incubates hormones and so many males and females are only thinking with one thing, and it is not their brains. I understood myself enough to know I am not an object because you did not treat me like one.The best thing I did was not jump straight into a relationship after ending another one. Allow yourself time and keep your options open.

I was able to form real connections with people

Think about it. When you decide to commit yourself to a long distance relationship in college, you will be spending a lot of time on your phone or computer, talking and face timing with your bae. Don't be known as the girl who only shows who she is to a screen. Allow yourself to meet new friends and people.Spend that time you would be talking on the phone making friends. Don’t make your phone your significant other.

I did not have to experience heart break in a new place.

Let's face it, college is a very lonely place when you are new to it. And breaking up is even harder when you have to be alone. The worst thing you are going to want to do is to sit in your dorm room alone crying, when you could be laughing with a group of people. Let yourself get over the relationship before you go to college.

Going home meant I got to see my family

I think about all the money I saved not having to travel to see you. And when I did go home I focused on making time for my family, and not for you.

I would have never been able to explore my options

I have met many other people and been on countless dates and some have been the time of life. To have stayed with you would have been settling. I don’t settle.

As I start my second semester of my freshman year of college I am so happy I did not continue a relationship that was bound to explode. You must always remember that people change, even in as a little of three months. What I thought was good for me a year ago, would have been a very miserable experience for who I am now. But of course if you really see something in the teenager you are with today then go for it, but distance is a bomb wire and your heart just might explode.