Whenever I tell someone how much I enjoy working out with my significant other, I get all types of glares. Mostly, I get asked “WHY?”.

It does not surprise me that that question comes up a lot, and I understand completely why that is because I was in that exact place a year ago. Why? At the early stages of relationship, at least from my experience, I worried too much about what my S.O thought about me, and whether or not I was going to be judged. Lets say I was not the most athletic person ever, and he was, and still is. I had minimal knowledge, and overall I felt intimidated doing anything else besides cardio. The first time he suggested we should “workout” together because he could help me, I panicked. I was so nervous because I thought I was just going to embarrass myself in that situation. I was dreading the time, but now looking back, I am so glad I went through that uncomfortable situation.

It did take me some time to realize that all he wanted was to help me achieve my own goals, and that we are together for a reason. He wasn’t going to judge me if I couldn’t do something, or if I struggled a lot with a specific exercise. It’s been over a year now, and for me, working out with my S.O is one of my favorite things to do with him. Weird I know, but it has strengthened our relationship in so many ways that are hard to explain. I feel as if we’ve gotten closer because we get to share that “hobby” with each other, constantly pushing each other and supporting one another.

Being sweaty, struggling to catch your breath, not wearing makeup, and being frustrated if you can’t do something are just some stages of working out. Sharing that experience with a significant other not only lets them see you at a vulnerable stage, but also feel closer because they could be experiencing the same things. It is not about what you can or can’t do. It is about helping each other, motivating each other and pushing each other to reach their own goals. That person is with you for a reason, and exercising can be a great way to grow even closer.

I think everyone knows they should do some type of exercise on a regular basis to stay healthy. This is not limited to just the “gym” but it could be dancing, running, jogging, zumba, tae-kwon-do, or simply going for walks.

I think my final advice is to do something active with your partner, whether it is a hardcore workout, or simply a walk every day. There is something special about being active with them, sharing the rush of endorphins together, and getting to see each other doing something else than Netflix. It could be a weekly thing, daily things, every two weeks, but I highly recommend it.

There is no need worry about what they might think, because they are for you with a reason, and if they truly care for you, they will only be there to push you to be the best you can.

Find a passion you both share and explore it together. Only great things can come from that, and it can make you fall in love a little more. Not just being active, but find something you both enjoy, or want to learn and experience it together.