As the Titanic sunk, thousands of women in dresses and men in top hats fled overboard into little boats that would soon carry them away from a sinking ship. Although the Titanic was a beautiful boat, that once served as a luxurious getaway for those who could afford to sail the seas on it, it eventually sunk and no longer served such a purpose.
Although the Titanic offered divine dinners and music that made the mind sing, the passengers knew it was time to abandon ship the second the Titanic hit the iceberg. In some ways a relationship that didn’t work out is like the Titanic. Perhaps once upon a time it worked beautifully, and provided you with luxuries beyond your wildest dreams. But eventually, it hit an iceberg and began to sink. In that moment you knew very well that it was time to get in your paddle boat and say your goodbyes to the relationship that once floated above the sea with ease. It’s never easy to let go, but one thing that is important to remember. Is that after the passengers distanced themselves from the titanic they never went back. No one was foolish enough to dive under water and try to salvage the sunken ship. The same is true in relationships. Wouldn’t it be foolish of you to dive into uncharted waters to try and resurrect a relationship that’s fallen six feet under?
The word “ex” is cleverly written. If seen in the proper light, one can reason that it reminds us to “X” those who we were not compatible with out of our lives. However, the one problem several people face is that even though a relationship may die, a ghost occasionally lingers. No matter how hard you work to put the nail in the coffin you may find yourself dancing with dead every now and then. You see, after every relationship ends we are reminded that there are two sides to every story because both parties walk away with a different opinion of how the boat sunk. Some say the propellers were broken and stopped working. However, those above deck long enough would argue that the boat clearly hit an iceberg.
Perhaps the most chilling side effect of two people walking away from a relationship with different takes on how it all ended, is that it leaves room for further contact and discussion. Months pass by as you begin to move on and throw away all those old photos of the two of you and that red scarf he once gave you on that cold winter night when you swore you loved him and that it would all work out. Then, out of the blue you receive a message. You read it and your heart sinks to your chest because it’s from him. Someone you thought was put to rest a long time ago. In fact, you saw the coffin lower to the ground, you already said your goodbyes to the man that was supposedly locked in an eternal slumber. How could he be messaging you right now? Wasn’t it all over? And here you thought the "Walking Dead" was just a television show.
Your eyes fall out of focus as you scan the message and quite quickly learn that he has come up with a million reasons why the both of you didn’t work out. However, the horror movie isn’t over. He then mentions that regardless of all the reasons it didn’t work, he still wants to reconnect with you. Why should you reconnect with him? The reason for the death of the relationship was so clearly written in that week’s obituaries. Why not leave it to rest?
Regardless of how good of a case your ex may make for himself and the death of the relationship, you must always remember that once the past is buried it must stay buried. Simply because the future is not as bright when standing in the shadows of your past. I once read that one of the reasons Cinderella is a princess is because she didn’t look back at her glass slipper. If she had looked back she would have grabbed the slipper and have missed her happily ever after. Do yourself a favor and do not chase after ghosts no matter how tempting their arguments may be. You are better than that. After all, one day you will find someone who will remind you why you never looked back.
