Why You Need To Start Putting Your Happiness First

Why You Need To Start Putting Your Happiness First

Your happiness is YOUR happiness so do not let others weigh in on what should cause it.

Happiness can be defined in many different ways; a big smile, the feeling you get when a loved one hugs you, the bliss you experience when the warm summer sun is beating down on you after a cold harsh winter. While we all can easily point out what happiness feels like, sometimes the difficult part is attaining it. How can you find your happiness when the summer sun hasn’t come out yet or you haven’t found that loved one to hold yet? Sometimes we tend to overlook the simplest answers and spend eternities searching for some complex solution to it all. The simple answer to the question of how to be happy can be found within ourselves.

To be happy, we need to remember to actually put our happiness first. Too many times we refrain from doing things that would make ourselves happy in order to appease someone else’s wishes. Don’t pacify others desires before your own. While you may just be trying to be a kind person in doing so, you are minimizing your chances of being happy. From what I’ve seen and experienced, the majority of people, the only exception being your parents, are going to put their own happiness above yours. So with that being said, why set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm? Compromising on what you want should never be an option. If you want to go away to college, don’t compromise to appease your long term boyfriend. If you want to change your major to something less profitable but one which means the world to you, don’t worry about what your parents will say. Your happiness is your happiness so do not let others weigh in on what should cause it.

Happiness doesn’t just come from what you do, it comes from within. This is something that I’ve struggled with a lot. While everything may be going great in life and you have everything you could ever ask for, sometimes you will wonder why you still don’t feel truly happy. What I’ve found it that you won’t truly be happy if you aren’t happy with yourself first. Joy comes from within. The more comfortable and confident you are with yourself, the more likely you are to enjoy life. Think about it, if you want so badly to go up and sing karaoke at the bar with all your friends but you are self-conscious, it’s going to hold you back from getting out and having fun. Love yourself first and happiness will follow.

The most important thing to remember growing up is to be happy. When it’s been raining all week, you’re swamped with homework, or you’ve just been through a tough breakup, remember to be happy. Life is too short to be anything but happy, so get in that mindset. The more you believe and tell yourself that you are happy, the more you’ll actually start to be. Finding joy and things that bring you it in everyday life can be good for your heart and health by reducing negative feelings and stress on our hearts. So relax and have a day of happiness for your mental and physical health, put your happiness first and you’ll soon find life to be enhanced. Find what makes you happy and hold onto it.

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A Letter To My Go-To Aunt

Happiness is having the best aunt in the world.

I know I don't say it enough, so let me start off by saying thank you.

You'll never understand how incredibly blessed I am to have you in my life. You'll also never understand how special you are to me and how much I love you.

I can't thank you enough for countless days and nights at your house venting, and never being too busy when I need you. Thank you for the shopping days and always helping me find the best deals on the cutest clothes. For all the appointments I didn't want to go to by myself. Thank you for making two prom days and a graduation party days I could never forget. Thank you for being overprotective when it comes to the men in my life.

Most importantly, thank you for being my support system throughout the numerous highs and lows my life has brought me. Thank you for being honest even when it isn't what I want to hear. Thank you for always keeping my feet on the ground and keeping me sane when I feel like freaking out. Thank you for always supporting whatever dream I choose to chase that day. Thank you for being a second mom. Thank you for bringing me into your family and treating me like one of your own, for making me feel special because you do not have an obligation to spend time with me.

You've been my hero and role model from the time you came into my life. You don't know how to say no when family comes to you for help. You're understanding, kind, fun, full of life and you have the biggest heart. However, you're honest and strong and sometimes a little intimidating. No matter what will always have a special place in my heart.

There is no possible way to ever thank you for every thing you have done for me and will continue to do for me. Thank you for being you.

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Your Health Journey Is A Marathon, Not A Sprint

Perfection takes time.


When you first start to do something, you have all of the motivation in the world to accomplish that goal set out in front of you, especially when it comes to being healthier. The problem is as you continue through this journey and food and laziness kick in, motivation slips. It's human, and it happens to everyone no matter how physically strong they are.

Trying to be healthier doesn't always mean losing weight. It can be so your knees don't ache as much, so you don't feel as out of breath climbing stairs, or any goal you have set for yourself. Being healthier is personal and different from person to person.

I will be the first to admit that there are plenty of changes I would love to make about myself. From my weight to my body type and many other things about myself inside and out. I am by no means the most confident person about how I look, but I have worked hard for the past year to be an overall healthier person.

Becoming healthier isn't about looking thinner or fitting into a specific size of clothes. It is about taking care of yourself from eating better to working out more. There comes a feeling of confidence in what your body can do if you put a little love in it.

Perfection takes time, and I know firsthand how frustrating trying to be healthier can be.

Pizza tastes so much better than salad. It is so easy to fall into a rhythm of something that seems never to change whether that is your weight or your mile time. Sadly, you can't build a city, or become healthier overnight.

We see people who are thinner, curvier, smarter, faster, and so much more than us. We all waste time comparing ourselves to people around us and on our timelines, but some of our biggest strengths are our individuality and the gift of getting back up after falling down.

All I can say is, please don't give up on your goal of being healthier because this is solely for you. We can have a great support system in the world and have everyone in our corner, but that isn't enough.

You need yourself. You need to know that if you don't entirely put yourself in this journey, then you won't fully succeed. Your commitment to bettering yourself can keep you going even if you want to give up.

Your motivation may not be at its peak level right now, and you may have every cell in your body screaming at you to quit. Don't do it. Prove to yourself that you can keep going no matter what. Not giving up will be worth it. The results and taking the hard way will make you a stronger person inside and out.

You can do this. You can do anything you want to accomplish if you just believe in yourself. You need to understand that becoming healthier takes endurance. There will be periods where you slow down and may not be going at your fastest pace. The difference is that you are not giving up and you are still trying and moving.

Don't treat becoming healthier as a sprint: short term and quick. That mentality will only leave you feeling deflated and defeated. It is a life-long marathon of pacing yourself and pushing yourself further than ever before.

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