Why You Need To Start Putting Your Happiness First

Why You Need To Start Putting Your Happiness First

Your happiness is YOUR happiness so do not let others weigh in on what should cause it.

Happiness can be defined in many different ways; a big smile, the feeling you get when a loved one hugs you, the bliss you experience when the warm summer sun is beating down on you after a cold harsh winter. While we all can easily point out what happiness feels like, sometimes the difficult part is attaining it. How can you find your happiness when the summer sun hasn’t come out yet or you haven’t found that loved one to hold yet? Sometimes we tend to overlook the simplest answers and spend eternities searching for some complex solution to it all. The simple answer to the question of how to be happy can be found within ourselves.

To be happy, we need to remember to actually put our happiness first. Too many times we refrain from doing things that would make ourselves happy in order to appease someone else’s wishes. Don’t pacify others desires before your own. While you may just be trying to be a kind person in doing so, you are minimizing your chances of being happy. From what I’ve seen and experienced, the majority of people, the only exception being your parents, are going to put their own happiness above yours. So with that being said, why set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm? Compromising on what you want should never be an option. If you want to go away to college, don’t compromise to appease your long term boyfriend. If you want to change your major to something less profitable but one which means the world to you, don’t worry about what your parents will say. Your happiness is your happiness so do not let others weigh in on what should cause it.

Happiness doesn’t just come from what you do, it comes from within. This is something that I’ve struggled with a lot. While everything may be going great in life and you have everything you could ever ask for, sometimes you will wonder why you still don’t feel truly happy. What I’ve found it that you won’t truly be happy if you aren’t happy with yourself first. Joy comes from within. The more comfortable and confident you are with yourself, the more likely you are to enjoy life. Think about it, if you want so badly to go up and sing karaoke at the bar with all your friends but you are self-conscious, it’s going to hold you back from getting out and having fun. Love yourself first and happiness will follow.

The most important thing to remember growing up is to be happy. When it’s been raining all week, you’re swamped with homework, or you’ve just been through a tough breakup, remember to be happy. Life is too short to be anything but happy, so get in that mindset. The more you believe and tell yourself that you are happy, the more you’ll actually start to be. Finding joy and things that bring you it in everyday life can be good for your heart and health by reducing negative feelings and stress on our hearts. So relax and have a day of happiness for your mental and physical health, put your happiness first and you’ll soon find life to be enhanced. Find what makes you happy and hold onto it.

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17 Empowering Bible Verses For Women

You go, girl.

We all have those days where we let the negative thoughts that we're "not good enough," "not pretty enough" or "not smart enough" invade our minds. It's easy to lose hope in these situations and to feel like it would be easier to just give up. However, the Bible reminds us that these things that we tell ourselves are not true and it gives us the affirmations that we need. Let these verses give you the power and motivation that you're lacking.

1. Proverbs 31:25

"She is clothed with strength and dignity and she laughs without fear of the future."

2. Psalm 46:5

"God is within her, she will not fall."

3. Luke 1:45

"Blessed is she who believed that the Lord would fulfill His promises to her."

4. Proverbs 31:17

"She is energetic and strong, a hard worker."

5. Psalm 28:7

"The Lord is my strength and my shield."

6. Proverbs 11:16

"A gracious woman gains respect, but ruthless men gain only wealth."

7. Joshua 1:9

"Be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go."

8. Proverbs 31:30

"Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised."

9. 1 Corinthians 15:10

"By the grace of God, I am what I am."

10. Proverbs 31:26

"When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness."

11. Psalm 139:14

"I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made."

12. 1 Peter 3:3-4

"Don't be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God."

13. Colossians 2:10

"And in Christ you have been brought to fullness."

14. 2 Timothy 1:7

"For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline."

15. Jeremiah 29:11

"'For I know the plans I have for you,' says the Lord. 'They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.'"

16. Exodus 14:14

"The Lord himself will fight for you. Just stay calm."

17. Song of Songs 4:7

"You are altogether beautiful, my darling, beautiful in every way."

Next time you're feeling discouraged or weak, come back to these verses and use them to give you the strength and power that you need to conquer your battles.

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Poetry On Odyssey: Some Days

A poem that reminds you that you're not alone.


Some days,

You dread the sound of your alarm. You snooze and snooze and snooze and snooze.

When you finally pull yourself out of bed, pressed time forces you to throw on stained sweats

you find yourself chugging a cup of coffee.

You sit on the couch and contemplate calling out of work

You caught the stomach bug,

Or perhaps the flu,

Maybe you broke your collar bone

Or need a new phone

The endless list of excuses repeats through your head as you sit on the couch, wishing you were still in bed.

It takes every ounce

Every breath

Every fiber of your being to pull yourself off the couch

And into the car

And into the building where you work

Some days,

This is just how it goes

You are not alone.

Some days,

You awake to the beautiful sound of birds

Chirping outside your window

The sun sneaks its way into your room

A smile creeps across your face as you realize you are awake to see a new day

You make a good breakfast

You read a few pages of your favorite book

You get your mind ready for the things it will accomplish today

Before you know it you've worked an entire day

Your job is done

As you pull into your driveway,

you take a few breaths

Feeling grateful for another meaningful day.

Some days,

This is how it goes

You are not alone.

Every day is a gamble,

Every day is a gift

The key to getting more good days

Is believing that everyday is one.

You are not alone, this is just how it goes.

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