It's okay. It’s okay to grow up and move on. It's okay to grow out of old habits and old rituals. It's okay to grow out of people. It's okay to cut people off who no longer serve a purpose in your life. After high school is wonderful but stressful time to create yourself. You no longer have to be caught up in everyday routines you couldn't wait to get out of. Choosing a college, new friends, new atmosphere and essentially everything in your life is something that most people only think comes once in your lifetime but in actuality, how are you supposed to know what you want to do for the rest of your life when you barely know anything about the real world? Well really, you don't. You won't understand what life is like unless you are away from familiar surroundings and learning to adapt to them, it's a form of growth that some don't understand nor realize is necessary. Maybe it's necessary for you at the age of 18 or maybe it's at the age 58. But no matter what age you are, no one has life completely figured out we are human and we learn as we go.
Essentially though, a key is to not get caught up in the people that don't support you. You can go from having 100 friends in high school to one for the rest of your life if that means you have a good support line. Life is too short to chase after people who don't care and people who aren't there to help you grow into the person you want to be in the end. Not everyone has a plan for you in their future and not everyone wants to see you succeed as an end result. If that doesn't make you want to work ten times harder and find things in life that make you happy, then keep the toxic people in your life and see how quickly your happiness deteriorates. Life isn't about pleasing the people around you, it's about building something you can proudly look at and smile knowing you made the only person who's opinion matters, satisfied- you. Being selfish doesn't always have to have a negative connotation to it because in some cases it may benefit others for the better as well.
If you're feeling lost, it's time for you to be selfish and to not feel bad about it. This doesn't mean you have to take an 180 turn and become cold-hearted but it also doesn't mean you have to answer to other's opinions and what's best for their needs. Focus on yourself first. Focus on stability and peace of mind whether that's changing jobs/majors, leaving, taking a stand-- it doesn't matter. Those who want to see you succeed will be there by your side no matter what. They won't make you second guess yourself or try to make you feel bad about hurting their feelings with your decision because it won't benefit them, they will only push you to be better and as humans that's all we should strive for in life-- being the best we can with our time given on this Earth
