The Importance of Being Your Own Person

The Importance of Being Your Own Person

How the power of listening can change everything.

Being your own person, what does that mean?

To be honest, I am not quite sure yet. All I know is that if you really want to grow as an individual, then you have to surround yourself with people who are going to bring you up, and not down.

Recently, the past three weeks of school have been busy, not too stressful yet, but I know it will be stressful. It is so extremely important to have a few people you can really trust and talk to about anything, but it is also crucial to have some friends who are smarter than you. You would be surprised the things you can learn from other people, and they are often equally if not more mature than you, so they can offer you some damn good advice.

Two days ago, one of my close friends told me about a roommate issue. This person told me the whole story, and I tried to offer my best advice, given that I am not an RA and generally inexperienced in these matters. I was trying to be comforting and calm my friend down.

But, the way in which this person reacted made me realize something very important. If you ever give someone advice, and they reject it, then they are not ready and/or willing to be the bigger person, say sorry, and move on. Okay, that seems obvious, but seriously, it sucks to offer a friend some pretty good advice only for him/her to reject it altogether. After dealing with this busy week and lack of sleep, I decided to watch a film called Lost in Translation as my wild Friday night.

Lost in Translation was so amazingly beautiful and somewhat depressing, it motivated me to deep clean my floor.

You are probably questioning my sanity at this point, but there’s more to this odd story. I was texting a friend, who recommended the film, about the last scene in which Bill Murray’s character whispers something into Scarlett Johansson’s ear. We were trying to figure out what Bill Murray whispered to her because the audience does not hear any of what Murray says, and I felt so valued as a person when analyzing the film.

Admittedly, I am that friend that will drop anything to help someone close to me, and not necessarily take time to prioritize myself. Lately, I have been focusing so much on helping other people that I sort of lost track of myself, so, actually having someone express their want to hear me out was nice.

And, this person reminded me that surrounding oneself with the right people is an important part of learning and growing as an individual, which is what college is all about. What I have found is often the quiet, independent, and “delightfully odd” people are some of the greatest human beings I have ever met.

Of course, being your own person has factors other than having a solid group of people you can trust, but certainly, it is nice to have people to listen. So readers, go off into the world and change it, but remember to be kind to those around you and throw compassion around like confetti.

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17 Empowering Bible Verses For Women

You go, girl.

We all have those days where we let the negative thoughts that we're "not good enough," "not pretty enough" or "not smart enough" invade our minds. It's easy to lose hope in these situations and to feel like it would be easier to just give up. However, the Bible reminds us that these things that we tell ourselves are not true and it gives us the affirmations that we need. Let these verses give you the power and motivation that you're lacking.

1. Proverbs 31:25

"She is clothed with strength and dignity and she laughs without fear of the future."

2. Psalm 46:5

"God is within her, she will not fall."

3. Luke 1:45

"Blessed is she who believed that the Lord would fulfill His promises to her."

4. Proverbs 31:17

"She is energetic and strong, a hard worker."

5. Psalm 28:7

"The Lord is my strength and my shield."

6. Proverbs 11:16

"A gracious woman gains respect, but ruthless men gain only wealth."

7. Joshua 1:9

"Be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go."

8. Proverbs 31:30

"Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised."

9. 1 Corinthians 15:10

"By the grace of God, I am what I am."

10. Proverbs 31:26

"When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness."

11. Psalm 139:14

"I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made."

12. 1 Peter 3:3-4

"Don't be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God."

13. Colossians 2:10

"And in Christ you have been brought to fullness."

14. 2 Timothy 1:7

"For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline."

15. Jeremiah 29:11

"'For I know the plans I have for you,' says the Lord. 'They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.'"

16. Exodus 14:14

"The Lord himself will fight for you. Just stay calm."

17. Song of Songs 4:7

"You are altogether beautiful, my darling, beautiful in every way."

Next time you're feeling discouraged or weak, come back to these verses and use them to give you the strength and power that you need to conquer your battles.

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The Power Of Journaling

Slowing down in a fast pace world.


In a world where everything is moving so fast pace, I have found comfort in taking small moments to reflect on the blurring images around me. I have always loved to journal, but recently I have found a system that works very well for me.

One habit that I have newly formed is creating a section in my journal that I like to call "Get Out of My Head." Life moves very fast and sometimes my thoughts can't keep up. This causes stress, anxiety, sadness and even the feeling of loneliness. I have created this section in my journal to be a safe place where I can just scribble down whatever is taking over my head, but there is a trick.

Like I stated previously, I have always loved to journal, but I never found ultimate comfort in it because I would go back and read what I wanted to remove from my mind. This was causing me to reexperience what I didn't want to. I highly suggest having a place in your journal that is essentially a flame for all th4e thoughts you want to rid of.

On the contrary, have a section in your journal where you love to look. I try and fill this section with happy thoughts, quotes, verses, and gratitude. This makes journaling and reading your entries something to look forward to, rather than not.

In conclusion, journaling is unique for everyone and it takes some time to figure out exactly the right way. But once you discover the safe place that journaling can be, it can change your life forever.

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