Six words, 20 letters.
Six short words and 20 small letters that the women of our generation are completely incapable of speaking. Hell, six short words women are incapable of even texting – and you know how much we text.
How is it that even when hiding behind their smart phone, women do not have the audacity to be honest – to be straight forward with a guy they do not like? Why don’t they have the courage to say how they feel and tell a guy what they want, instead of telling them what they want to hear? Why don’t women have the generosity to spare not only a guy's time, but also a guy's heart?
The ugly truth is that women need to stop playing games and learn how to tell a guy how they really feel. Which more times than none, is simply that “I’m just not that into you.”
Our generation is characterized by the go-getters, the dreamers, the people who believe they deserve the best and will achieve the best. Not only in terms of school, jobs, and material objects – but in their relationships as well.
So why do we waste our time on people who aren’t the best? Why do we string along people who we know we will never really give a chance? Why do we hinder genuinely nice guys from receiving the best too?
I'm tired of hearing women complain about all of the horrible and confusing things men do. I'm done sympathizing with women who complain about the guy who won't stop texting them. Unless you've straight up said, "I'm just not that into you. Please stop talking to me," chances are you're the exact reason why they keep texting ("bothering") you.
Now I have been out of the dating scene, or “texting” scene, for a while now (currently waiting for Zac Efron to discover my existence) but, I have seen enough to know how the game works.
Exhibit A:
(A boy texts you that you do not like.)
You say aloud to your friends: “OMG, Billy won't stop texting me!"
They say: “Ew. Don’t respond.”
You agree: “Duh, definitely not responding!”
You then: respond.
Why?!?!?!
Ladies, what are you doing?
I don’t know if it's because girls just like having options, or they plainly just like being liked. Maybe it’s a constant need of reassurance that they're wanted. Perhaps it’s because they just live to hear that they're pretty as many times a day as possible. Whatever the issue may be, it has got to stop.
Us women sit around and complain about all the guys who have never been straight-up with us. We plead that we just rather them be straight-up with us and that we're tired of playing games. We drive ourselves crazy wondering if we’re wasting our time or not. But the sad matter of it is, we are just as guilty.
Like I mentioned earlier, I’m currently not “talking” to anyone, (mainly because I’m weird and wear my robe 24/7) but I have plenty of friends and past experiences to know exactly how this all goes down.
Thus, when I call a woman out for leading a guy on, or say they need to stop texting a guy back because they’re going to end up hurting them, I am often slighted with these insincere justifications:
“I just don’t want to be mean.”
“I don’t want to hurt him.”
“But he’s so nice.”
“We’re just friends – he knows that.”
OK…No!
1. You don’t want to be mean? Oh, well perhaps stop leading him on.
2. You don’t want to hurt him? Then stop leading him on.
3. If he’s so nice then… Stop leading him on.
4. Oh, and I'm sure he knows you’re just friends by your very clear and honest response for why you won’t date them. Perhaps the typical “I’m just not ready for a relationship right now” response. You don’t like him, you never will, and you know it.
The women of our generation fight for respect, for acknowledgment of their confidence and power. They desire appreciation and recognition for being driven human beings who know what they want, and will do anything to get there. I admire these women and I support these women. I am one of these women.
Yet, these are the same women who are too cowardly to tell a man she doesn’t want to date them. The same women who lie to themselves and make excuses for their actions. The same women who are solely concerned with receiving attention, no matter who it comes from.
These are the same women who demand respect and honesty from men, but don’t give it back. These are the women who are contradicting themselves and giving us ladies a bad rep.
Now I know this is not how every woman handles this situation and the point of this article is not to make women think poorly of themselves. But I hope this article does make you think.
I hope this makes you see how pointless it is to text a guy who you know you will never actually date. I hope you realize that this only makes you selfish and weak. I hope you know you're better than that. I hope you begin to realize how easy it actually is to say those six words and 20 letters - "I'm just not that into you." And I hope you realize that you’re not only wasting his time, you’re wasting your own.
