Why We Always Want What We Can’t Have

Why We Always Want What We Can’t Have

Why the grass is always greener on the other side.

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I googled "why we always want what we can't have" and most of what came up was related to romance, which wasn't the only thing I was thinking about when writing this article. I think this behavior can apply to many different aspects of our life, and so it is all the more important to be aware of this tendency because although I, unfortunately, couldn't find a "cure" for this behavior, I believe that being aware of a problem is the first step towards solving it.

I think the answer to this question comes down to daydreaming. The wonderings and making up of scenarios of an idle brain. That cheeseburger that you have been craving for weeks, imagining what it's going to taste like when your diet finishes, is never going to be as perfectly tasty in real life as it was in your head. Don't get me wrong, its probably going to be amazing, but no cook can make something exactly as it is in your imagination, simply because your imagination is something so uniquely yours.

This cheeseburger can be used as a metaphor for other things in life as well. A vacation, a test you studied hard for, or even a relationship. Anything, really. And again this doesn't mean that life is depressing and you are never going to get things your way. It all comes down to expectations usually differing from reality, which can happen for the best as well.

There is a psychological phenomenon called "impact bias" which is the tendency we have of overestimating emotional states. Basically, when we are sad we think we are going to be sad for longer than we actually are, the same goes for happiness and other emotions. So possibly the impact we think obtaining something would have on our happiness is bigger in our heads compared to reality, and so when we actually get the thing we are disappointed by how fast the rush of happiness of having it passes. This is probably why many psychologists advise their patients to focus on the things they are grateful for in order to live a happier life.

So by wanting what you can have you get to live only with the picture of what having that thing would be like, and this way your high expectations are never crushed. Whether this is a subconscious defense mechanism or just a brain malfunction, I find that this happens to many people, and affects various different aspects of life.

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The 10 Stages Of A 2:30 P.M. Kickoff, As Told By Alabama Students

But we still say Roll MF Tide!

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We all have a love-hate relationship with a 2:30 p.m. kickoff at Bryant Denny Stadium, especially when it's 94 degrees.

1. Immediate sadness

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What do you mean I have to wake up at 9 a.m. to get ready?

2. Bracing yourself for the worst

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It's a marathon not a sprint ladies and gentleman.

3. Accepting the game is going to happen

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Rain or shine we are all in that student section screaming our heads off.

4. Trying to wear the least amount clothes possible without being naked on the Quad

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Is it me or does it get 10 times more hot the minute you walk on to the quad?

5. Shedding a tear when you walk out your front door once you feel the heat and humidity on your skin

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Is it fall yet?

6. Drowning your sorrows inside a Red Solo cup at 11:30 a.m. at a fraternity tailgate

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Maybe I'll forget about the humidity if I start frat hopping now.

7. Getting in line to go through security realizing it'll take an hour to actually get inside Bryant Denny

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More security is great and all but remember the heat index in Alabama? Yeah, it's not easy being smushed like sardines before even getting into Bryant Denny.

8. Feeling the sweat roll down every part of your body

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Oh yeah I am working on my tan and all but what is the point of showering before kick off?

9. Attempting to cheer on the Tide, but being whacked in the head with a shaker by the girl behind you. 

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Shakers are tradition, but do we have to spin it around in a full 360 every two seconds? I have a migraine from just thinking about it.

10. Leaving a quarter into the game because Alabama is kicking ass and you're about to have a heat stroke.

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I'll watch the rest in air conditioning thank you very much!

We may not love the 2:30 kickoffs but Roll Tide!

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I Made Emma Chamberlain's Mediocre Vegan Cookies, And They're Pretty Incredible

Emma and her vegan cookies have made their way into my heart, and are here to stay.

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One day, I went down the black hole that is 'YouTube at 3 am' and discovered my favorite social media influencer of all time: Emma Chamberlain. I started binge watching her videos every night for about a week, where I came across her "Cooking With Emma" series. I decided that I wanted to give her vegan antics a go for myself.

I've never cooked or baked anything with the intention of it being vegan, so not only is that new territory for me, but I've never even eaten a vegan cookie. The only reason I'm doing this is because Emma did, and she is aesthetic goals.

To start the journey of vegan baking, I took to Pinterest, just like Emma, and found this recipe to use. Although the video that inspired all of this used a gluten free recipe, I opted for only vegan, because I'm allergic to most of the ingredients that make things gluten-free.


In true Emma style, I used a whisk to combine the wet ingredients together, making sure to use her special technique.


Then, I did the same thing with the dry ingredients.


After that, I dumped everything together and combined all of the ingredients.


Once they were combined, I chopped up a vegan chocolate bar, because Emma and I like chocolate chunk cookies, not chocolate chip, there's a difference.


Now that everything is combined, I made balls of dough and stuck it on a pan, and baked them while I binged more Emma, because what else would I be doing in my spare time?



The recipe said to make the balls a lot smaller, but we aren't perfect, so I made them gigantic. In my head, I thought the worst thing that could happen was it turn into one big cookie, but that's a whole other video you need to watch.

I took them out of the oven, and they were brown on the top, but still a little doughy. At this point I was tired of waiting and eager to eat them, so I disappointingly set them aside to cool, which only lasted a minute or so before I snagged one up to try.



The taste was definitely one I've never associated with cookies, and came to the conclusion that if I decided to go vegan, it would be doable with these cookies and Emma Chamberlain by my side.



Emma inspired me to get out of my comfort zone, which is a reoccurring theme throughout her channel, and I'm happy to be apart of it. She taught me that even if mediocre cookies is all you have, eat them with pride because you made them yourself.

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