Although, the beginning of friendships seem to almost always be like a 30-day trial, sometimes I feel as if people meet and instantly connect. You want to surround yourself with positivity. I don’t really know why it is so difficult to trust in people these days but, I rarely find myself taking a chance on it…even though I do not know what will happen as a result. One of the reasons why I find it so difficult to trust in those who I just started to build a friendship with is because of the security aspect. Because expectations form and are not always met people like me would rather give up on others. The friends that are willing to go the extra mile will always make sure you are not left wondering or questioning the friendship they share with you.
These friends will go out of their way to make sure that you are okay, give you advice, jam out with you during long drives or talk your ear off about that new movie you have got to see, make sure your outfit is on point, value you for who you are, and invite you to hang out with them because they are genuine. You do not need a large group of people to feel secure or happy at any stage of your life. If you ask me, friendship is not about how many there are, it’s about why they are there. Quality over quantity will always be clear. Why hang out with people who you can not be your entire self around solely for the purpose of reputation? Friends won’t always necessarily have to be the "look" or “expectation..” Who cares?
The important thing is that they are there for you. They wouldn't turn away when you need them the most. Being friends with those who appreciate you make you realize what is really valuable in your life, and from it, you can learn how to not only value them but, yourself.
In surrounding yourself with real friends, you grow as an individual. When you surround yourself with a big group of “friends” who you barely interact with you forget what genuine communication is. A friend who goes the extra mile will help you know what it feels like to return the same appreciation you crave. You no longer feel as if you have to be so guarded that you cannot be yourself or share any more than a mere surface with those around you. It soon begins to click that you missed out on so much time getting to know other people because, you were feeding into this idea that being real is a bad thing, however, that is not true. These friends won’t let you feel as if your invested time was all for nothing, or that they could care less.
