I know. Your social media timeliness are FILLED with engagement proposals and wedding pictures, and your sitting here either in "awe" or "complete confusion", wondering if you're the only one who is not at this stage in their life yet.
Throughout this past year, I did not think being single was acceptable at first. Living with 3 women who were all in serious committed relationships, made me think there might have been something wrong with me, like why couldn't I be like them or have what they have? I've always known what I looked for in a spouse, but when it came to talking to guys, I would attempt to accept their qualities and eventually try to "morph" them into what I had wanted. Listen, It does NOT work, and NEVER will work out, if you attempt to do this.
After almost 5 years of convincing myself that I will find someone, I completely GIVE UP. Not with the whole dating and marriage situation in general, but with searching. Why am I out here (along with millions of other women) looking for a man on the daily basis? Not that there is anything wrong with that, but life is about so much more. This semester I finally learned that having a girls night out can never be replaced with a one night hook up, that you may or may not regret later on. So that's right, I'm giving up. But I will NOT and REFUSE to give up my standards!
Yes, in a relationship there is compromise and balance, but there are somethings that you should not have to sacrifice. There is a HUGE difference in what you NEED and want you WANT, and once you establish that concept, the rest should fall right into its spot. Having standards will help you weed out all of the heartbreaks and "he could be the one." You do not deserve the confusion of the "Millennial Relationships" that are occurring now, you should get your happy ever after ending, if that is what you see in your future. For every guy that tells you its not realistic wait, wait for the guy who will come along and prove all of the others wrong. Keep those standards you want and are looking for, you will thank yourself later on.
As I blast Tori Kelly's "Dear No One" for as ever long as I need to, I know that holding out for my standards will make me ultimately the happiest. I feel I can reflect and have a positive outlook on life as I appreciate the small and little things I see on the daily, instead of scoping out every guy that walks by who is my age. I have done so much in my life thus far and plan on continuing to do so much more. I will take advantage of those opportunities and not dwell that I do not have a man to share it with. Because that time will come when it will, but for right now, we are fun young and free, so keep your head, heals, and STANDARDS high!
