It wasn't but a couple of weeks ago I was with a group of my friends, all of them happily taken, and they kept wondering why I haven't dated anyone in a while. Sitting there making conversation, my friend said, "Maybe if you lower your standards and stopped having high expectations you would have a boyfriend." Totally shocked by the words I heard, I thought to myself before responding and said, "I would rather be happy and single, than settle for someone who doesn't treat me the way I deserve." After that our regular conversation went on and no one said anything to me after.
It puzzles me sometimes how girls constantly have boyfriends or girls will settle just for the sake of saying they have a boyfriend. I am no one to judge because everyone is different when it comes to relationships and everyone loves differently. But, for me, I've learned so much from my past relationships: what it's like to date someone for awhile, and that it is OK to walk away from something you are not sure about to think about your happiness and what you deserve. You learn something each time and take that with you for your next relationship. It shapes you sometimes into who you are now so you will know what you want with the next person you date.
With knowing what you deserve, your self worth is so important. I believe you cannot truly be in a committed relationship until you love yourself first and know you. Understanding you and what you want will help you in the future, when you decide to date again and to not settle for less than what you deserve. Love can be tricky but it can also be so exciting at the same time.
So take time and learn to love yourself. Don't let other people make you feel like you need to be with someone just because they are. The right person for you will come when you least except it and that is what makes waiting so exciting. So, you know what? I will not lower my standards to have a boyfriend. I'm way too busy loving myself and enjoying the things I want to do, and with that I refuse to settle for anything less than what I deserve.
