Have you ever gone to a store and seen a cute sweater, then look at the tag and it says, “One size fits all.” Your first thought is either this will be too big or too small because one size never really does fit all. You try it on and it is too small, but your friend tries it on and it is too big. By the way, I apologize for breaking the Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants theory that one size can fit all. It is simply not true. So if we clearly see that this “one size fits all” sweater does not actually fit all, why do we apply this to other areas of our lives?
The main area I see this theory applied to the most in my current stage of life is the idea of marrying young. I hear people constantly say “you’re too young” or “it is too soon,” but they are basing their ideology off of what worked or did not work for them. So when am is someone old enough or when is it not too soon? I know people who dated and married within less than a year of knowing each other while another couple dated for two years and got divorced within eight months. So how can you say there is a certain length of time to date? One size does not fit all. I know people who got married at 18 and are madly in love with their spouse seven years later, but I know people who get married at 27 and are now holding on to their marriage with a thin rope. Again, I ask how can you apply the idea that one size fits all?
As much as I hate to be cliché and quote Taylor Swift, her lyrics in the song “Ours” is pretty spot on in regards to each relationship being unique. “They’ll judge it like they know about me and you. And life makes love look hard. The stakes are high, the water’s rough, but this love is ours.” I think love is a choice and you choose to love someone for the rest of your life, and when I am prepared to make that choice, I hope I won’t hear anything but support. I am not you and you are not me. Each relationship is different from the next and I do not think that the standards in which you followed should be applied to mine. Why? Because "one size fits all" is a myth. When it is right for you, then it is right. Age does not define that, and timing does not define that, just like a tag does not define what fits you right, even if it is supposed to fit all.
