Why Is It Okay To Ruin Girls' Futures Too?

Why Is It Okay To Ruin Girls' Futures Too?

Why are we only worried about boys' futures?


A lot of the talk in the news, especially on social media, has been about Justice Brett Kavanaugh and the sexual assault allegations that have come forward. Connecting this case to ones in the past, often the 'justification' for letting it go or not taking it completely seriously is because they don't want to ruin the man's future....ruin the MANS future. Let that sink in for a second.

Rape and sexual assault can happen to anyone, both men and women. One in five women and one in seven one men will experience sexual assault in their lifetime. But many of the more popular cases in the media such as the Brock Turner case in 2016 are justified because the man was 'young and didn't know what he was doing' or they don't want to 'ruin the rest of their lives'.

Why is this so easily justified but no one thinks about the lifelong effects that this trauma has on the victim?

So many victims are literally traumatized for months, years, or their entire lives from their experience. 94% of women who have been raped experience symptoms of PTSD during the two weeks following the rape. 30% of women reported experiencing PTSD 9 months after the rape. 33% of women who are raped contemplate suicide. 13% of women who are raped attempt suicide. Approximately 70% of rape or sexual assault victims experience moderate to severe distress, which is a larger percentage than for any other crime.

Why is this not our main concern in the courtroom? Why is okay to focus on the rest of the man's/perpetrators life, but not the victims? I've heard this reasoning in too many cases and it literally just does not make sense. They aren't the victims in these situations, so why is it them who gets the second chance?

I've talked to a lot of people in the last week or so, asking their opinions on the case specifically and on the way rape cases are treated in general. One opinion that was relatively common between men really stood out to me; that they feel as if women lie about the rape or sexual assault occurring. Fake rape accusations get a lot of attention because they're an easy escape.

Only 2-10% of rape accusations have been proven false in the last 10 years according to a US study. The FBI only has 8% of rape cases that are "unfounded". Every 98 seconds an American is sexually assaulted. Only 2-10% of accusations have been proven false in the last 10 years.

I've also heard, "Well why is she just bringing this up now?" What people don't understand is how hard it is to get a rape case even inside a courtroom, and one of the only reasons this one finally came up is because of the high-class social status. Everyday rape cases aren't typically discussed because most go unreported or don't ever make it that far.

But Justice Kavanaugh has the name attached, and that forced people to pay attention regardless if they agree or disagree with what happened.

This specific case combined with the 'Me Too' movement has begun to give women a voice, and more and more have finally spoken up about their own personal experiences. People don't understand how much times have changed and that women simply were not allowed to speak up about these things are they are today.

This case is a prime example of how far we still have to come, and how serious these cases need to start being taken. The victims need to start becoming the priority.

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Christian Women And Modern Feminism Cannot Coexist

Women who hold the truths of the Bible cannot also hold the ideas of modern feminism.


Feminism, as it is defined, is the "advocacy of women's rights on the basis of the equality of the sexes," according to the Merriam-Webster dictionary. This is NOT where the problem lies.

Eve was made from the rib of Adam, not from the foot to be below him, or the head to be above him, but the rib to stand beside him. The problem does not stand with the ideology that women and men are equal as humans, as this is a Biblical truth.

The problem lies within what feminism has become.

For Christian women, our calling is outlined directly in Titus 2. It states, "(women) are to love their husbands and children, be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands."

This seems to fly directly in the face of modern feminism, doesn't it? Working at home?! How dare you say that! Notably, this verse never says women cannot have a career outside of the home; it simply says that the home is a priority when a woman has a husband and children.

Submissive to their husbands?! That sounds like slavery!

The church is to submit to Christ's word and will, and the husband is to be the spiritual leader of his home. Similarly, the wife is ideally like the church in which she allows her husband to lead the family. It never says that a woman is a servant and can be abused by her husband.

Modern feminism teaches that women are not just similar to men, but that they should be better.

They constantly focus on what they can do that men can't, and what they can do better than men. Why is this a problem for Christian women? Men and women are meant to complement each other in their personalities and physicalities, they are not meant to try and outdo each other.

God made both man and woman to bind together and live life together, as humans are made for companionship. Modern feminism also teaches that you have every right to abort a child within you, even if it's a result of your own irresponsibilities.

Jeremiah 1:5 states, "Before I formed you in the womb, I knew you. Before you were born, I set you apart..." As a Christian woman, how could you support an ideology that completely disregards the sanctity of human life?

Modern feminism attacks the core of Christian womanhood and effectively destroys the special qualities of women created by God.

We are made differently than men and that is OK. If you are a Christian woman, and you hold the truths of the Bible as law in your heart, there is absolutely no logical way that modern feminist ideologies can coexist.

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You're Next

We have empowered each other under the #MeToo movement, now, I challenge women to take action under a new movement--#You'reNext.


You're Next.

It was 5:50 p.m. on a busy street in downtown Los Angeles. Every business was open, people walked the streets, cars were stopped, parked, driving, and turning all around me. I froze. I threw my hand down, attempted to throw a right hook, and screamed at him. I followed him, adrenaline pumping, tears welling in his eyes. Over my dead body would I ever allow a low-life to determine if I was a victim. I wanted revenge. I was dazed and confused, and I didn't know my campus' emergency number by heart. Was there one? Because I do remember being on hold for a while. It's hard to remember everything when you're listening to an obscure ad for 10 minutes on the ONLY line you are told to call when you need to report something—for speed purposes. I called a friend nearby instead, because every man that witnessed what I just endured circled me on their bikes while verbally sexually assaulting me. I am a strong girl with athletic genes and a course of self-defense under my belt, but somehow I was still powerless.

The #MeToo movement truly changed the conversations we are having in our contemporary society. Because women in the media have started to come forward and direct attention towards traumas they have endured and suppressed for years, women everywhere are finally feeling supported enough to tell their tales as well. As proud as I am to be a woman during this movement, I am still disheartened. The dichotomy of this time in our lives is truly perplexing. With every woman that speaks her truth, I am elated that she can finally put to rest the secret she has wanted to uncover for years, maybe even decades. But as I watch the words flow harmoniously with her tears, I reach the inevitable harsh truth that we cannot ignore. Her words make us cry. Her monologue has yielded hundreds of thousands of retweets, likes, shares, reposts, quote tweets, and actions alike. But best case, he is taken down a peg—socially or maybe professionally if we are lucky. This movement has united us as women to stop hiding the wrongs that men have committed against us, but it is time to blossom from this movement. This is not enough. We are united, but we are united more and more because these traumas are not being stopped.

Our words have garnered support through the written and verbal word. We are going to the authorities, we are correctly validating each other's pain, we are seeking a new world. We have worked as a unit to unite against sexual harassment, but it is time to shift focus. You're Next. To the men who touch us inappropriately at parties because they're "interested", you're next. To the men who mock feminism and attempt to pit men as a minority, you're next. To the men who are our friends that are "good guys", but still like to joke about rape and the idiotic theory of feminism being exclusive, you're next. To the adults, men and women, that ask us about our clothing or tell us "see, that's why you shouldn't do ____" rather than recognizing the OFFENDER's wrongdoing, you're next. I have grown tired of men turning our traumas into a reason to be coddled and pitied. Just because you haven't raped someone, doesn't mean you're a good guy. Just because you bought me dinner, doesn't mean I owe you physical affection. Just because you decided to DM me something nice or tell me I'm pretty, doesn't mean I am supposed to match your energy. I am sick of receiving a checklist of things I should do, rather than making it known nationally, globally, culturally what men SHOULD NOT DO.

I challenge my fellow women to take action. Inappropriate, unsolicited touching IS sexual assault. I deleted the words "sexually assaulted" in my tweet and attempted to replace it with "groped". That conscious action reminded me of the state we are in. Even during our #MeToo time, women (including myself) are afraid to call sexual assault, sexual assault. We have basked in our media spotlight as the powerful, strong beings we are. But now, it is time to spotlight our offenders. It is time to direct attention towards the evil side. We are no longer tolerating being told to cover up, stay in past 6 p.m. (or sundown), not drink, not drive at night, not this, and not that. It is time to DEMAND that men do not grope us, do not threaten us when we decline their advances, to not belittle us when we say something made us feel powerless, to not do this, that, and everything else you all have gotten away with for so long. To the men who read this and want to ask me why I am only addressing men, I ask you to open your eyes. The men that are not the target of my words are the ones who do not need a disclaimer and that know I do not think all men are the same. While you are offended by my powerful words, I am offended by being groped, laughed at, mocked, and threatened. You are annoyed by women tweeting "thank u, next", while I am annoyed by every man foul-mouthing me for not reciprocating his advances just because he was "nice" about it. And while you read this with anger in your heart, keep in mind that you're next.

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