Change: Something that we are all constantly having to do whether we want to or not. And If you're like me, I'm more on the not side.

WHY???

Why? Why must we change? Why can't everything just stay the same? Why are people always waltzing in and out of our life like it's no big deal? Why do we have to grow up and let go of things that we only know as normal? Why do we have to say bye to people whom we've spent our entire life with? Why, why, why???

I could name several more things I constantly am asking myself on a day to day basis, and I'm sure you could come up with some as well. We wake up every day thinking that everything is going to be the same when really and truly, things are changing every second, even if things seem to be the same. I mean think about it: even though we go through the same motions pretty much every day, things are changing around us without us realizing it. Why? Because we don't think about it. It's the same scenery, same people, and same routine. So we think. Our eyes and mind are focused on what we only know, not what's different. And if we do realize it, we tend to steer away from things that don't seem normal to us.

Change, Change and More Change:

For me, my small town is no longer a small town anymore and it's just not what it used to be. Every time I go back, something new is being built and more houses are being sold. My high school is growing each day it seems like and the homie feel I get when I usually go back, is starting to fade. I can only imagine how the people who were there long before I was born feels. It's changing each day making me miss everything I once took for granted.

Also, my parents decided to put our house up for sell a few weeks ago and they already sold it. At first, I was super excited but then I realized that I've spent more than half of my life there. I've found myself going back home from college the past few weekends because now that I know we won't get to be there much longer, I want to spend as much time as I can. Sounds silly but that's the only place I know as home and I'm truly going to miss it.

Random Experiences I Know We All Go Through:

Have you ever walked somewhere random whether it be in a store, restaurant, outside or maybe even a friends house and smelt something that brings back a memory (good smell or bad)? It happens to me all the time and it just got me thinking about how much things have changed without me truly realizing it.

This is going to be super silly but last night while trying to fall asleep, I found myself constantly trying to find a cold spot under my blanket for my foot to rest on because it felt really good. Then I'd get super cold and found a warm spot. I went back and forth until every spot on my bed was warm. So then I decided to turn my fan on high and put one leg under my blanket and one leg out. After a few minutes, I'd get cold again and put both under. I kept switching back and forth until I finally fell asleep. My point is, our bodies are constantly changing and we have to do something to meet our needs of being comfortable. We have to be uncomfortable to get comfortable. Super weird analogy but it's true. I mean think about it...When we are uncomfortable, it;s a natural habit to find ways to cope what is going on until our needs are met. And by doing that, we learn new things about ourselves we didn't know existed.

For example, growing up, I was super shy. I wouldn't talk to a lot of people, I was super conscious about everything I did, and I got embarrassed easily. Now, I'm pretty outgoing for the most part. But I had to do things such as giving speeches to get more comfortable talking to and in front of people. Unless you're a born actor/actress, even though I'm sure they go through it too, everyone has to learn in their own way.

I also get in weird moods to where I go places that I love such as an old park, coffee shop, sometimes my classes in college(okay maybe I just don't want to be there), friends and several other things I'm super familiar with, feels different and uncomfortable. When that does happen, I realize that I love all those places and need a nap, which usually fixes it. If it doesn't, maybe your conscious is telling you something.

Change Isn't all Bad:

What I've come to realize is we have to change. Friends, schools, scenery, towns, etc. all has to change. Without it, We'd never learn or grow. We'd never know what the "Outside World" is like. We'd never get a taste of what reality is or experience certain things such as being uncomfortable and learning how to cope with it, and taking different paths to find out what we like and dislike. We'd simply just never learn to grow up.

You can't go back. You can't change what's happened or what's going to happen. But what you can do is realize that each day you wake up the same person but you also learn something new making your mind change a little bit at a time forcing you to learn and observe. What you can determine is how hard you work at something and what steps you are willing to take next to determine your future.

The secret to Change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old, but on building the new. Build your future, your character, your home, your everything and I think you'll be pretty happy with the ending result. I know I will be. Change is hard, but I promise life goes on and it'll benefit you in the long run.