Ah, Manhattan. Before you moved to New York City, Manhattan was likely the glowing light at the end of the tunnel and the grass that was greener on the other side. It once seemed like the city, even midtown, could do very little wrong. Without even realizing it, we were all once just Taylor Swifts preparing to live it up in "The Big Apple," or whatever other equally annoying name Taylor Swift would probably use to refer to New York City.

However, the reality of the city once you live there is that it can actually be somewhat predictable and even annoying. Like a mediocre relationship, several aspects of the city seem to rear their ugly head once you are actually living in it.

Here are several reasons why Manhattan and your man share more similarities than would think they would:

1. Inconsistency and Fear of Commitment.

There are essentially only two seasons that persist in New York: intense heat and numb, bitter cold. Fall and spring get approximately a week somewhere in between, before rain and other torrential weather phenomena set in. While predictable in the long run, any given day in Manhattan may be more than you bargained (and dressed) for.

Likewise, a man with a fear of commitment, a remarkably refreshing concept, somehow mirrors the inconsistency and tumultuous nature of the Manhattan weather. At closer look, the weather is similar to your and your guy’s on-again, off-again relationship.

2. White Privilege

Good old Eurocentric, tourist-y Manhattan? Gentrified white neighborhoods. Your boyfriend? Also probably really white. See a pattern? Though Manhattan/New York City is actually an extremely diverse area, it is hard to ignore the white culture of consumerism, gentrification, and wealth that is the basis of a lot of the city (think "Gossip Girl"). While there is nothing wrong with just solely being white, there is a whole lot wrong with not being aware of your white privilege. Both your boyfriend and Manhattan are seeping with character that only results from white privilege and a sense of entitlement that does not acknowledge itself.

3. Expensive.

As your stupid boyfriend is actually really broke and just living off the money his parents give him on holiday breaks, you have to pay for a lot. Let TLC tell it in "No Scrubs" --your man indeed just sits on his broke ass. While you remind yourself you are indeed a liberated woman who does not expect her collegiate boyfriend to pay for everything, you suddenly find yourself footing the bill all too often, whether he just does not have the money for the late-night taxi cab from Manhattan back to the Bronx or he has “no cash” in his wallet for either of your $2 slices of pizza. Similarly, Manhattan is pricey, partly because of high taxes and expensive real estate, but mostly just because they can be and people are willing to pay more for less. Also thank you, NYC and Obama, for the $2.75 metro card swipe to go a mere 10 blocks.

While both your boyfriend and Manhattan are somewhat inconsistent, seeping with white privilege, and also an increasing investment, there must have been something that attracted you to them in the first place. Furthermore, it is important to remember that neither are an obligation, and in many cases, the good can even outweigh the bad. Either your boyfriend or Manhattan will somehow find a way to be worthwhile, and if not, just remember Queens, or a new guy, is never that far away.