Now, before I go on, I know that I am probably going against what most of you have been told, and I am okay with that.

I'm sure anyone that has ever lost someone close to them has heard numerous times from an abundance of people that, "You'll be okay," or "It gets better with time." If you're like me, you got really tired of hearing those things because it all felt kind of like a lie. You knew they were just saying whatever they thought would help you feel just a little bit better, but who can blame them, right? You're probably left there wondering, well, what if it doesn't? What if I am not okay and what if it does not get better in time? Here is some advice that I would think to be obvious: that's okay! It's okay not to be okay with losing the person you loved most in this world. Hell, I'm sure I am guilty of saying the above phrases as well because really, what else is there to say sometimes?

So that's what we say, but does it really get better with time? Or do you just get better at figuring out how to cope with the pain while finding ways to go about each day with the absence of that person from your life? For me, that answer is no, it doesn't get better. The honest truth from my experience is that it does not get better and no amount of time makes it better. You just get a little better at dealing with the pain, if you're lucky. Sure, you figure out how to go on with your life but is that really things getting better? You figure out how to go through the motions while ignoring that ache in your chest because nothing feels right without that person. You master the art of deception and pretending you have moved on when really, you are still dealing with the loss just as much as the day it happened. You drown in the wave of nausea that sweeps over you as you struggle to go through the day because everything in the world reminds you of that person's voice, their smile, a song and the memories you have shared with them. But you ride out that wave and have to move on with your day because you're still hoping that this will "get better in time."

But how much time, exactly, is enough to give something until you realize some things just do not get better and that time is not a factor in it? Weeks, months, years?

That pain you feel does not get easier, but you do find ways to cope. So we can stop placing our pain in time's hands and just find ways to move on without forgetting. People get swept off of this Earth for no good reason at all, and if I have learned anything from losing "my person," it's that nothing is ever the same when you lose a good person, and that is okay because it's not supposed to be. It's okay if you lost someone special in your life and the pain is still front and center making itself known. It's okay if it's not getting better with time, because maybe it is not supposed to after all.