Why It's Okay To Cry

Why It's Okay To Cry

And why it's not okay to tell people not to.

People are full of various emotions, and each person presents these emotions in different ways. Many of these emotions can be accompanied with tears, whether that be anger, sadness, happiness or pure bliss ... But just as everyone expresses emotions in different ways, everyone also cries over different reasons and in various increments. Some cry over the most simplistic life events while others cannot recall the last time they shed a tear. No matter how often you may feel the need to cry, understand that it is always okay to just let it all out.

Too often people tell others "don't cry." But this is a message that we should not be spreading to others. Crying is a way to let out any stresses that may be building up inside. Whether that be negative or positive, sometimes we just need to let these stressors out, and this may include through tears. When people are told not to cry, they in return bottle up all these stressors. When all those get to be too much, it can result in a mental breakdown that is a lot worse than if they would have let out the stressors when they first occurred. They continue to carry on this weight because they were told not to cry, and the weight soon becomes too much to carry. Therefore, if you need to cry to let out these stressors, then cry! Don't bottle it up until it becomes too much to handle.

Sometimes people cannot hold back their tears. When they begin to feel them coming, it is hard to make them stop. They begin to well up and your bodies natural response is to let them out, so do just that. Do not try to stop what your body is naturally trying to do. Your body knows that you are in distress, and therefore you should let your body do what it needs to do to destress. If this includes balling your eyes out, then let it happen. You will feel better in the end after a good cry.

Finally, your crying is not physically harming anybody. Yes, it can make other people feel sad and pity for you, but they need to realize that if you feel like you need to cry, then it is for the best that you do. And if you are someone that cries just because a puppy walked by you, then that's perfectly fine. This is just apart of your personality, and your personality is what makes you you.

The lesson here is if you feel the need to cry, then by all means let it out! Do not keep it bottled up until you finally explode. This can be detrimental to your mental health. If you feel the tears coming on, then let them spill over. Do not try to hold them back. And finally your tears are doing no physical harm to others; understand that everyone cries and it is okay.

So when you need to cry, cry! Don't let anyone tell you not to do so.

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it


Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

SEE ALSO: To The Girls Who Float Between Friend Groups

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In Real Life, 'Plus Size' Means A Size 16 And Up, Not Just Women Who Are Size 8's With Big Breasts

The media needs to understand this, and give recognition to actual plus-size women.


Recently, a British reality dating TV show called "Love Island" introduced that a plus-sized model would be in the season five lineup of contestants. This decision was made after the show was called out for not having enough diversity in its contestants. However, the internet was quick to point out that this "plus-size model" is not an accurate representation of the plus-size community.

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It is so frustrating that the media picks and chooses women that are the "ideal" version of plus sized. In the fashion world, plus-size starts at size 8. EIGHT. In real life, plus-size women are women who are size 16 and up. Plunkett Research, a marketing research company, estimated in 2018 that 68% of women in America wear a size 16 to 18. This is a vast difference to what we are being told by the media. Just because a woman is curvy and has big breasts, does NOT mean that they are plus size. Marketing teams for television shows, magazines, and other forms of media need to realize that the industry's idea of plus size is not proportionate to reality.

I am all for inclusion, but I also recognize that in order for inclusion to actually happen, it needs to be accurate.

"Love Island" is not the only culprit of being unrealistic in woman's sizes, and I don't fully blame them for this choice. I think this is a perfect example of the unrealistic expectations that our society puts on women. When the media tells the world that expectations are vastly different from reality, it causes women to internalize that message and compare themselves to these unrealistic standards.

By bringing the truth to the public, it allows women to know that they should not compare themselves and feel bad about themselves. Everyone is beautiful. Picking and choosing the "ideal" woman or the "ideal" plus-size woman is completely deceitful. We as a society need to do better.

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