People always say, “Don’t change for anyone.” While their intentions may be good, sometimes that statement is not true. What if someone has aspects about themselves that perhaps do not work for others, such as constantly lying or being rude or constantly gossiping. These are things we know we shouldn’t do, but do them anyway.
What if you did these things daily, but one day you found someone really special. This person is not your average friend, but a person you can see yourself with for the rest of your life? What if they couldn’t stay with you, though, because of your constant harshness, compulsive lying and judgment of others. Would you want to change to be with them?
Sometimes we have to realize that we are not the center of the world. We get caught up in our own sense of pride that we forget to come back down to earth and be humble toward others. It’s hard to tell ourselves “no” when we don’t want to change because changing character is one of the hardest things to do. Swallowing your own pride feels like a thousand knives sliding down your throat, but in order to be fair to the person you love, it’s something that you have to do.
Would you want to be with a person who always wrongs you? Your answer is most likely “no.” That’s why it’s okay to bend the “don’t change for anyone” rule and make some new adjustments in your life. When making “changes” in your life for others, know that it’s not necessarily trying to turn yourself into someone you’re not, it’s more of a matter of growing up. You become more mature when you think of how your lifestyle could be better and fit with those you love the most.
When you find your future spouse, no matter what, you have to change the way that you live, and that’s okay. Just remember that your significant other is having to change themselves for you, too. It’s a mutual agreement between two people that they are willing to sacrifice their own pride to be with each other, and that’s one of the most mature decisions to make in life.
If people then decide to judge you in return for changing for a special person, those people obviously have never met someone that they would drop everything for in a heartbeat. Everyone moves at different speeds in their life, so don’t expect all of your friends to accept the mature person you’re becoming at first, but eventually they will understand.
When it comes to changing for others, the most important thing to remember is to adjust your life to live with someone that you truly care about. Don’t change yourself for the worst, but rather take what you have already made a foundation of in your life and make your good characteristics more mature.
So, don’t be discouraged when you found a special person in your life and you want to change for them. Change isn’t always a bad thing, and don’t be turned off to it quite yet because you never know how many opportunities it can bring you.
