Are you fully invested in a relationship that seems to have some overwhelming negatives? Is it evident that you both love and care for each other? Is it also evident that love doesn't seem to be enough to make this relationship work? Well then this is the right article for you!
We all know have that one relationship that just didn't work out, despite the energy, effort, and love that was invested. The golden question everyone wants to know is: is love enough? What if the answer is no… will you feel hopeless? Here’s why it is completely okay that love is not always enough.
Loving someone else isn't always “enough”, but loving yourself is always enough. Learn to love, learn to grow, and learn to prosper, all on your own. Gain your own love, and you will always bring “enough” to the table.
Loving someone else can be challenging. Eventually it sometimes seems like all of the little reasons why you fell in love turn into the little reasons why your significant other drivers you absolutely crazy.
Remember when you used to get excited to do their laundry? Oh, the gratification of folding your lover’s clothes for the first time, and making them smell like EXTRA amounts of fabric softener. Now when the laundry pile grows into a mountain, a fight arises and you are yelling at the fact that they fail to never do their laundry themselves.
Remember when you actually were more than glad to take out their garbage? Such a strange thing to be happy to do, but such a real thing that takes a relationship to the next level. Now the garbage probably smells and is overwhelmingly stuffed to the max with uneaten leftovers. You feel like you’re always the one to take out the garbage, so you leave it, hoping that your significant other will see and no words will need to be exchanged. But they do not notice and you grow bitter.
These things happen. And although they are little, the little things add up and amount to large, big, ginormous things.
No, love is not enough. To have a working relationship, you need so much more than love. You need care and time. You need effort and energy. You need to learn how to be utterly selfless. You need to be thoughtful, and it is no longer just your feelings that are always being considered, you now have your significant other’s too.
If you really want something to work, if you truly want the complete best relationship, you are going to need much more than love. And that is why it's completely okay that love isn't always enough. It is okay that the boy you were obsessed with and thought you would get your first apartment with just didn't work out. It is okay that the girl down the block who you loved since the 1st grade didn’t want to go to prom with you.
Think of this as reassurance. Remind yourself that you are not the only thing in the world that factors into a successful love story. There are plenty of externalities that fail to be considered, especially after a fresh heartbreak. We would be crazy humans to think that happiness is the soul product of love. Love drives people, but does not create happiness.
