When I was younger, my first heartbreak felt like the end of the world. I had no other reason to live if I weren't with this person. Who was I without him? That is such a ridiculous thing to think about now, but I truly thought that I couldn't go on without this toxic relationship. So many girls feel this way all of the time. They don't know how to let go of that toxic relationship because they feel like they have no other option.
If you are one of those girls, trust me when I say that's not true.
The wise author Stephen Chbosky once wrote, "We accept the love we think we deserve." I never thought much into this quote until I actually understood what he meant. He means that if you know your worth, you won't let people treat you disrespectfully.
That is why it is important to love yourself before trying to get into a relationship or give your all to someone else. Someone who may not deserve it.
I thought this was a stupid concept, "love myself?" What does that actually mean? My freshman year of college, I finally understood. I graduated high school and cut off all communication with the toxic people in my life. I learned more about myself. I was alone but I wasn't lonely. And in that, I learned to respect and love myself.
Sometimes it takes just that. A moment to figure out who you truly are– what your passions are, what you want to do in life. After I did this, I started to understand myself. I didn't have to be in a relationship to be a complete person. I didn't have to have this person in my life to be whole. I was complete all on my own.
You are worth more. You are more than people give you credit for. You are capable of doing anything you set your mind to. If you believe in yourself, you can accomplish anything. You don't need anyone to tell you who you are or what you can do in life. If you have someone that has challenged that, prove them wrong.
When you feel like you have given your all and it seems like there is nothing left to give, don't fret. You are enough. Don't move mountains for someone who wouldn't do the same for you.
If you know your worth, you won't have any trouble cutting off the people who drain you and treat you badly. It is so important to take care of yourself, mentally and physically. Don't be afraid to let go of some of the negativity in your life.
You were brought to this earth to do something spectacular. Accept the fact that you're awesome and go do something about it.
