After talking to a handful of boys, I have realized that I am very specific when it comes to finding someone I want to get to know better and spend my time with. I have high standards, some that others may find unrealistic. It was not until a conversation I had with a good friend of mine that I realized just why I had those high standards...they come from the loved ones in my life who not only love me unconditionally, but cheer me on and respect me.

My family and friends are the most important people in my life. They treat and love me the way I should be treated and loved, and that is why it is easy for me not to settle for just any guy that gives me some type of attention. If my family and friends can love me the way God does, then there is no reason that the person I am pursing is not capable of that same love and treatment towards me.

It is easy to settle, especially when you think you will not find someone better for you. It is especially easy to settle if you are sick of being the single friend. Trust me when I say there is someone made for you. Sometimes, that someone is better than the person you are with. It may take a little longer to find that person but it is so worth the wait.

That person we like could be cute, honest, and loving, but are they also controlling and manipulative? If so, do not be afraid to say goodbye to that relationship. Or, is dating that guy you know you do not really care for or see a future with really better than staying single? Probably not. Next time you decide to date someone, really take the time to think about the person they are and how they treat you. Remember how your family and friends show you love; that is the love you want to find in someone and keep, as that is the love you deserve.

So, ask yourself these questions next time you find someone you think you want to date:

Are they honest with you?

Do they support your interests and things you are passionate about?

Are they always there to listen to you, especially on a bad day?

Do they make you smile more than they make you frown?

Are they a good influence?

Do they allow you to make decisions on your own?

Do they cheer you on?

Are they reliable?

Would they do anything for you?

Do they make you want to become a better person?

Do they love you unconditionally?

These are all things my family and friends have shown me and that is why it is so easy for me not to settle for just anybody. The loved ones in my life love me unconditionally, no matter the decisions I make. They allow me live and choose for myself. They bring out the best in me, as they support and encourage me. They cheer me on as a sister, friend, student and more. They are always there for me, good days and bad. They make me laugh more than they make me cry. Most importantly, they remind me of what I deserve.