Victim blaming. When will it stop?? When will we, as a society, place more importance on targeting the rapist, and less on figuring out what the victim may or may not have done to lead up to the event that has happened.
Men shouldn't rape, sexual assault should not be a thing. And that's all there is to it, it's not a hard concept.
It shouldn't matter if my skirt is too short. I'm not asking for you to claim my body as yours.
It shouldn't matter if I'm completely wasted. Maybe I just want to have a good time with my girlfriends. I'm not asking to be taken advantage of when I'm too drunk to even mutter the words "no."
It shouldn't matter if I'm walking alone at night. As a woman, I feel scared to walk alone at night. Sometimes, to walk alone at any time of the day. We shouldn't have to always have a "buddy." We shouldn't have to be afraid to walk from our seat at the bar to the bathroom. Or from our job to our car in the parking lot. People should just stop attacking other people. You shouldn't see a woman alone and think "yes, this is my chance to rape her."
It shouldn't matter if I'm walking down the street completely naked. Yes, that is frowned upon and illegal, but you know what's even more illegal? Rape.
I could walk down the street piss drunk and butt naked and that is still not "asking for it."
My amount of intoxication or lack of clothes, do not correlate to me wanting you to make sexual advances on me.
Instead of teaching our daughters not to leave their drinks unsupervised at a bar while they go to the bathroom, teach our sons not to drug peoples drinks and take them home and rape them.
Instead of teaching our daughters not to walk home alone at night, teach our sons that you don't go around attacking people no matter what time of day it is.
Instead of teaching our daughters to cover up if you don't want to be catcalled/ sexually assaulted, teach our sons that no matter how much or little clothing a girl has on, it is not an open invitation to rape her.
It's getting ridiculous how much we feel the need to educate woman on what to do and what not to do to repel a rapists, instead of raising our men to have the common decency not to rape a woman who is drunk, or wearing a short skirt, or not strong enough to fight back, or is alone, or walking at night. Or for any other reason at all!
And it is a terrible world we live in today when the world would blame the victim, as what is so often the case. And tell me it was my fault, that that behavior is asking for it, instead of blaming the man that would've just waltzed over and forcibly held me down and helped himself to whatever he wanted to do with my body.
"Well why was she dressed like that?", "why was she that drunk?" "Was she flirting with him?" "Kind of sounds like she was asking for it." How about, "Well why the heck would somebody see another human being and think: Wow, I want her but she doesn't want me so let me rape her."?? I think that's the better question.
