Our generation killed dating. There are stages to begin a relationship but actually going on a "date" isn't one of them. Teens across the country use terms like "talking" and having a "thing" to describe their relationship status. Unfortunately, these terms we use are extremely vague and every one uses them differently.

So, what is the difference between having a thing, talking, dating and being in a relationship? Used mostly among high schoolers, a "thing" or "talking" can be used interchangeably and may be described as texting your crush (who actually likes you back) and then maybe getting a smile and a "hi" the next day in school. It can also be used as a label to put on an exclusive relationship. Many teens who say they have a "thing" or are "talking" to someone are using it as a way to be able to flirt or be with several people at once and not be called a cheater. Honestly, I believe there is no such thing as having a "thing" or "talking" because both parties involved are never on the same page as to whats going on. Dating on the other hand is completely different. I feel we get the word dating confused with the concept of being in a relationship. Dating is going out with someone you're interested in being with and getting to know them better. I'm not saying Netflix and chilling isn't a date, I just don't think it is as serious as it used to be. This doesn't mean you have to go out and drop one hundred dollars on someone. Just maybe you should try to hang out with them a couple times before skipping to third base. Actually being in a relationship is finally when its exclusive. This means whoever you are with is only with you (no multiple partners "talking" tenth grade drama). When you're finally in an actual relationship consider yourself lucky and cherish that person because they chose you. Don't get jealous over the small things that once bothered you because they only want you and whats best for you.

I think dating is dead because everyone wants to skip the most important step of building a relationship. No one actually waits to get to know the person they want to be with. Everyone just goes after the hottest person that everyone else wants.This is why we tend so see so many high school and young adult relationships that last no longer than a couple of months. When you're just dating someone for the image its not worth it and young people need to realize that. Being with someone you love for the other reasons than their appearance or social status is beneficial mentally and physically. Hopefully teens will come to notice these effects and bring dating back.