Why I'm Single And Perfectly Happy

Why I'm Single And Perfectly Happy

I'm Tired of Feeling Pressured by Societies Standards.

I'm twenty-one and I'm as single as a pringle. In fact, I've never been in a relationship or even on a date.

Yes, I'm a senior in College and I've never reached this societal "milestone." I tell you this, not because I want your pity, but rather, because I'm fed up with the pressure that society has placed upon me to "get a move on." I'm tired of being asked the same old questions.

"So, any prospects?"

"Is there anyone you're interested in?"

"Is anyone interested in you?"

"Why are you still single?"

I'm tired of being unable to answer them. I promise, I'm not single because I wish to be. I wouldn't mind sharing my experiences and adventures with someone, someday. But, it just hasn't happened yet. I have a dream of hitting this societal "milestone" eventually. But in all honesty, I've been single for so long that I've finally found contentment in it. I'm happy with where God has me and I'll trust His timing until He shows or tells me otherwise. And these questions you all ask of me aren't bad. But, when they are constantly asked, with an immense amount of pressure attached, it just becomes too much. I'm done with answering them. So, please stop asking.

I'm the girl who was never asked to a high school dance, I've never been pursued by a guy, I've never been on a date, and shocker, I've never been kissed. But, this isn't bad. In fact, contrary to what society tells us all, a lot of young women are in the same boat as me. So, to every young women who feels as if she's missed the mark, please cut yourself some slack. You are not a lost cause. Trust God. Because, He shares His love with all who trust in Him. Also, please don't settle. Don't settle because you feel pressured by the timeline society has set for you. But rather, be patinet and wait for a guy who pursues you 'like a dying man in a desert, desperate for water.'

Lastly, to the rest of society, would you please look at the standards who've set. Because, some adjustments surely need to be made.

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To The Boy I’ve Been Dating Since I Was 15, I Always Knew You Were My Forever

Thank you for showing me love when I thought I didn't deserve any.


Hey you,

People assumed our "fling" would only last a few short months. It's what everyone assumes when your first love happens during your sophomore year of high school. Yet here we stand, three and a half years later, more together than we've ever been. Although we've had our ups and downs, we still managed to keep our relationship going and to remember why we're together in the first place.

Many say loving isn't easy, but you make it a walk in the park.

You respect me in more ways than one, and you make me feel beautiful, inside and out. For a long time, I never noticed the beauty and strength I have within myself. I didn't see what others would point out to me, and at times I still find it hard to acknowledge my worth. However, you came into my life at a time when I felt I had no one, and you helped me to see all I have to offer. You helped me to open my mind to the thought of loving myself for who I am, and although the road is long and I'm not completely there, you've made me see how worthy of love I truly am.

Having you as my best friend, along with being my boyfriend, is the most rewarding feeling in the world.

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You treated me with the respect I deserved before I even realized I was worthy of it.

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Three and a half years with someone may seem extremely long, but I feel as though we've been together a lifetime. It's hard to remember a time when you weren't right there beside me, and I would never want to imagine a future without you in it. There are so many more laughs, adventures, and memories to be made with you, and I only hope that I can be at least half of the person you are.

Thank you for pulling me out of the darkness. Today, tomorrow, and always.

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