There is a terrible amount of pressure on people to avoid (literally at all costs) being single. Being single is seen as negative and to many extents unacceptable by many. People who are single tend to question why and try to depict why they are single. They feel that something is wrong or lacking in their life that makes them unwanted by someone else. I'm here to tell those people to stop. What society tells us about being single and all of the negativity that surrounds it, is a lie.

For starters when you are single you make yourself vulnerable to learning. You allow yourself an incredible opportunity to learn not only about yourself but about others. You begin to learn what it is you want out of life and begin to find ways to achieve it. You learn how you want to be portrayed by others and begin to shape yourself in that way. Most importantly you learn to build standards and morals for yourself. You learn what you want from the people in your life and how you want to be treated by them as well as vice versa.

Being single gives you a chance to meet new people. When you are single you are able to meet other people because you are not tied down to someone and spending the majority of your time with them. You meet people that are out of your normal comfort zone. These are the people that will change your life in the most incredible way. These are the people that were there for you when the one person you thought you could count on was not.

You are more self-aware. You focus on yourself and become selfish for a period of time when you need it most. There is a misconception that being selfish is always bad. This isn’t true. Most people need to be more selfish and to take care of themselves. As humans we have a tendency to want to help everybody else but sometimes it’s more important that we help ourselves and better ourselves so that we are better equipped to help those in need.

I used to be so concerned with the idea of being single. Now I learned it has probably been the most incredible time of my life. I have learned so much about myself and about how people interact with each other and it is made me focus more on how I can change things for the better rather than sitting around and sulking with what I am unhappy with. I am stronger and proud of it because I have been single. I have broken down my own walls versus letting someone else do it for me. I may still have walls when it comes time for me to be in another relationship but they will never be as strong as the ones were previous. I am no longer a person that goes out searching for a relationship or searching for a person to be with I am waiting for the right time and right place and focusing on myself, my education and my life and how I want things to be. I have set goals for myself and one of them is to continue to reach for each and every single one of my goals and dreams and to achieve them but to do so in my own time and manner and know that I did them fo r myself and by myself. I used to be jealous of those who are always in a loving relationship but now I am happy and content knowing that I am in a loving relationship with me myself and I.