In today’s world, everyone is in a rush. You might be in a rush to get to the weekend or to get to spring break. No matter what it is, everyone is always in a rush.
Going into college, one thing that I have noticed is that so many people are in a rush to find that special someone. They search for that person to “make them whole”. I have seen so many of my friends lowering their standards and dealing with foolish, immature college boys just because their desperation to find that certain someone is so high.
Slow down. You have so much time to find that person and so much time to enjoy being by yourself. When you’re young, it’s your time to explore and learn who you are and what you want. You’ll never be where you are at this exact moment in time and why would you want to remember your college years as searching for a boyfriend or a girlfriend? I'm not saying I'm not open to new opportunities and relationships, but if I'm single I'm still going to enjoy life.
Enjoy your time with your friends, you have the rest of your life to be married or in a relationship, you will never be able to just go out on a random Tuesday with a whole group of friends and do whatever you want after your college years. You have so much freedom now and aimlessly searching to find someone can hinder that.
And unfortunately, I find myself rushing just as much as the next person. I was thinking today how the holiday season is so much nicer when you’re in a relationship. I had to remind myself that if I kept trying to make finding someone a priority, it would get me nowhere. I would look back in 50 years and be regretful about how I didn’t appreciate the countless adventures I had in college.
There is a liberating feeling of being single. Maybe this feeling stems from the independence you have with yourself or not having anyone justify your actions. I believe I will have a thoroughly amazing college experience because of this feeling. Someone will not “complete me” because I’m already complete just by myself. I'm not going to lower my standards because of that desire and I won't ever search for anyone. There’s no reason to rush, you have so much time to experience every aspect of life. Be open to every opportunity and make yourself a priority. The right person will come along when they are supposed to. Don't rush, just slow down and live your life.
