Why I'm Not Ashamed to be a Nasty Woman

Why I'm Not Ashamed to be a Nasty Woman

You can't be annoyed at feminism being called feminism when the entire history of the human race is called mankind.
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Feminism has become a term that was been twisted and misconstrued in so many different ways. Many people don't like when an argument is different from their point of view. For example, when the Black Lives Matter group was formed and a week later came the All Lives Matter group; people don't understand that we're not undermining others, we are addressing a problem.

Feminism does not mean we hate men.

Feminism means that I want to be treated equal to a man. I don't want to live my days knowing that I'm being degraded because I'm a woman.

Being a woman does not mean I'm weak.

Why is it that the worst things a woman can be called are "slut", "whore", "bitch", or "skank" while the worst thing a guy can be called is a "pussy" or even a "mangina"? Why is it that being a woman is the worst insult that there is?

You can't be annoyed at feminism being called feminism when the entire history of the human race is called mankind.

While equal treatment is the root of feminism, rape culture is the biggest concern.

Every one out of six women will experience some type of sexual assault in their life time, 28% of them before the age of 15.

We have been taught that we can't wear provocative clothing because that will attract the wrong type of people. That we have to be careful and go out in pairs on a night out so as not to get attacked. That if anything happens, it's our fault.

And the world wonders why rape victims don't come forward.

When you hear a story of a woman being raped, the most common question is "what was she wearing" or "was she intoxicated"? Followed up by statements of "she was asking for it" or "she didn't say no".

If the word yes does not escape my lips, I am not consenting.

Why is it that in today's world, unless we say no that we were the ones who did something wrong? Why is it that men get the free pass?

The men get praised or sympathized with for their amazing academics or skilled athletic performance as if being talented is a free pass for rape.

Nobody ever asks what a woman's rapist was wearing.

I don't want a rap whistle, I want change.

Rape culture and patriarchal values are killing girls while feminism is upsetting white boys on the internet.

If she's too young for her to be wearing "shorts that short", she's also too young for you to be sexualizing her body for wearing them.

I hate when people say "you're a girl, so act like one" as if my vagina came with a terms and conditions manual.

In the words of G.D Anderson, "Feminism isn't about making women stronger. Women are already strong. It's about changing the way the world perceives that strength."

I am proud to be labeled a "nasty woman" because I believe in love, acceptance, equality, kindness, respect and the power of my voice.

I'm proud to be a nasty woman because my body is not someone else's business.

Because I believe that women shouldn't be punished for the actions of someone else.

Because being a female should not mean having to avoid eye contact with men to not draw attention to themselves as a potential target.

Because one day I want my daughter to not have to fear walking the streets or to be afraid of being herself for the fear of others actions. We need to be the generation of women who will teach their sons to act respectfully instead of teaching our daughters to beware.

Because if men and women should be held to the same standards and women can't say something that may hurt a mans feelings, neither should they.

Because we should be equal no matter the circumstances.

Woman need to scream about the importance of feminism to the world until our voices become so hoarse that it's mistaken for a mans and people actually start to listen to us.

The fact that woman need to justify feminism by explaining how it benefits men is the perfect example of why we need feminism.

I believe that the election of Donald Trump has brought forth the fiercest, smartest, toughest generation of ass-kicking women this country could ever imagine.

I'm a feminist, a nasty woman. I've been a female for a long time now. It'd be stupid not to be on my own side.

Our rights aren't up for grabs. Neither are we.

So don't be ashamed or allow people to shame you for being a feminist. It just means you're ready for a world where you matter just as much as a man.

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It's Time To Thank Your First Roommate

Not the horror story kind of roommate, but the one that was truly awesome.
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Nostalgic feelings have recently caused me to reflect back on my freshman year of college. No other year of my life has been filled with more ups and downs, and highs and lows, than freshman year. Throughout all of the madness, one factor remained constant: my roommate. It is time to thank her for everything. These are only a few of the many reasons to do so, and this goes for roommates everywhere.

You have been through all the college "firsts" together.

If you think about it, your roommate was there through all of your first college experiences. The first day of orientation, wishing you luck on the first days of classes, the first night out, etc. That is something that can never be changed. You will always look back and think, "I remember my first day of college with ____."

You were even each other's first real college friend.

You were even each other's first real college friend.

Months before move-in day, you were already planning out what freshman year would be like. Whether you previously knew each other, met on Facebook, or arranged to meet in person before making any decisions, you made your first real college friend during that process.

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The transition from high school to college is not easy, but somehow you made it out on the other side.

It is no secret that transitioning from high school to college is difficult. No matter how excited you were to get away from home, reality hit at some point. Although some people are better at adjusting than others, at the times when you were not, your roommate was there to listen. You helped each other out, and made it through together.

Late night talks were never more real.

Remember the first week when we stayed up talking until 2:00 a.m. every night? Late night talks will never be more real than they were freshman year. There was so much to plan for, figure out, and hope for. Your roommate talked, listened, laughed, and cried right there with you until one of you stopped responding because sleep took over.

You saw each other at your absolute lowest.

It was difficult being away from home. It hurt watching relationships end and losing touch with your hometown friends. It was stressful trying to get in the swing of college level classes. Despite all of the above, your roommate saw, listened, and strengthened you.

...but you also saw each other during your highest highs.

After seeing each other during the lows, seeing each other during the highs was such a great feeling. Getting involved on campus, making new friends, and succeeding in classes are only a few of the many ways you have watched each other grow.

There was so much time to bond before the stresses of college would later take over.

Freshman year was not "easy," but looking back on it, it was more manageable than you thought at the time. College only gets busier the more the years go on, which means less free time. Freshman year you went to lunch, dinner, the gym, class, events, and everything else possible together. You had the chance to be each other's go-to before it got tough.

No matter what, you always bounced back to being inseparable.

Phases of not talking or seeing each other because of business and stress would come and go. Even though you physically grew apart, you did not grow apart as friends. When one of you was in a funk, as soon as it was over, you bounced right back. You and your freshman roommate were inseparable.

The "remember that one time, freshman year..." stories never end.

Looking back on freshman year together is one of my favorite times. There are so many stories you have made, which at the time seemed so small, that bring the biggest laughs today. You will always have those stories to share together.

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The unspoken rule that no matter how far apart you grow, you are always there for each other.

It is sad to look back and realize everything that has changed since your freshman year days. You started college with a clean slate, and all you really had was each other. Even though you went separate ways, there is an unspoken rule that you are still always there for each other.

Your old dorm room is now filled with two freshmen trying to make it through their first year. They will never know all the memories that you made in that room, and how it used to be your home. You can only hope that they will have the relationship you had together to reflect on in the years to come.


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Our Leaders Need A 'Time-Out'

We all learned a few essential rules as children.

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As I look watch the news, I can't help but wonder if the lessons we learned as children might not serve our leaders well. They seem to have forgotten these basic lessons. I am reminded of the book by Robert Fulghum "All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten."

Watch out, hold hands, and stick together.

I think this could be useful in a couple of different contexts. First, the current divisiveness in the country doesn't serve us well. We are first and foremost, a part of the family of humankind. Differences in politics, religion, and so on come in far behind that one important attribute. What happened to the notion of agreeing to disagree?

Second, when leaders get off a plane in another country, they should remember who they came with and who they represent - "watch out, hold hands, and stick together."

Clean up your own mess.

Trump seems to take great pleasure in blaming everyone else for their "mess." The government shutdown was someone else's fault – any Democrat. When the stock market went up, he happily took credit, but when it went down, he quickly shifted gears and placed the blame on the Federal Reserve Chairman. Daily and hourly tweets out of the White House place blame on someone else for his "mess." Sadly, he still likes to blame Obama and Hillary for his mess.

Don't lie.

Politicians have always had a bad reputation when it comes to honesty. Still, the number of lies that we hear from Trump (and members of his staff) is unprecedented even for a politician.

We all learned these lessons when we were little more than five years old. Now more than any time in history I think our leaders need a " time out" to re-learn these lessons.

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