Growing up, I was raised that what my parent said goes. Even though I would argue or get mad when I didn't get my way, my parents ran the house and what they said goes. Now with modern parenting, when I'm out in public and I see parents with their kids running around like crazy people, and the parents don't discipline their kids they say in calm voice "reevaluate your choices" or "think about your behavior" instead of using the most simple word in the dictionary and means the same things in the majority or all languages — no! Instead of telling kids the word "no," kids now walk all over their parents, and all I can say is I'm grateful my parents told me no and these are the reasons why.
The first reason is it told me how to respect other. If I was out somewhere as a child and with my parents and I misbehaved, they would tell me right then and there, "no, don't do that." This taught me to think about what I was doing, and this made me realize that what I was doing affected the people around me and I was being disrespectful and rude. Kids today who aren't told no by their parents aren't realizing that they are being disrespectful. Just like how parents who don't tell their kids no are showing all the adults around them that they don't care about them or how their child's inappropriate behavior is affecting them. They also don't learn personal responsibility from being told not to do something and then being able to apologize for their bad behavior.
The most important reason I'm glad I was told no is because it taught me what to expect from the real world. Parents don't tell their kids no because they're worried it will destroy their self-confidence. Little do these kids know that when they go out into the real world, they will have to hear the word no — a lot, and they will have to face rejection. But if they don't hear no, or learn how to lose a game of soccer game instead of every game ending in a tie, they will face a super harsh reality in the future. My parents telling me no allowed me to learn that hearing the word no was normal, and if I was told no I didn't go home and cry to my mom. I was able to reevaluate why I was told no and was able to improve on myself. When this generation of children gets older and they go to college, they're going to go home and cry to their parents and give up. They will never be able to achieve their full potential, and it has to do with poor parenting.
Being told no is the best thing you can do for a child. I'm thankful that my parents said it to me because by being told no, I was able to learn early on in life you don't always get what you want in life. Even though I never liked hearing my parents say it to me and I told my parents I hated them when they did it, I later realized how necessary it was and how I would be the biggest self-entitled jerk ever if I didn't hear it. So I just would like to say, thank you, Mom and Dad!
