In today's society, if there's one thing that goes around in circles, it's that females ALWAYS expect the guys to post cute things about them, and get hurt when they don't. I've been one of those girls, especially when I see my guy post all about his guy friends all over Snapchat, but very rarely posts anything about me. It made me question and wonder, and feel like I wasn't important. None of that is true though.
Guys are a different species. In the almost year and a half that I've dated Wil (and been friends with him for a lot longer than that), I've learned a lot. I've learned that he doesn't like to talk about serious situations as much as I do. He doesn't like to constantly be doing things, instead, he could sit and nap or play video games. He also doesn't post a lot on social media. Which I never minded. Until I started noticing a pattern that bothered me.
When Wil got back from boot camp, he was ALL about his buddies from there. He'd post Snapchat stories. He'd post Instagram pictures. Needless to say, I was livid. And a whole lot of hurt on top of that. It actually started making me distance myself from him. I had so many questions running through my mind 24/7. Why didn't I get this special treatment? Was I just the person behind him who didn't really matter? Was I just this extra baggage? Did he even want me around?
I don't confront people. That's my weak spot. Confrontation scares me, simply because I always assume the people will get angry and just leave without ever looking back. I didn't confront him, still haven't. It still bugs me at times, because yea, he still posts when he sees the guys, but not necessarily me. I'm not one of the guys, though. I never will be (thankfully). I am, however, one of the most important people in his life, BUT that doesn't mean he has to post about it. The girls always think they need to share pictures of their guy, which is completely OK. The guy just wants the girl to know he loves her. He doesn't want the whole world to know their story.
Well, the majority of guys I know at least. They get this bad rep from other guys when they share this mushy stuff on social media. That's why you rarely see them do it. Wil posts about me on Instagram from time to time, never on Snapchat. It's just how he is. Everyone who knows him knows about me. They know how much he cares about me because he'll openly tell them. He just doesn't feel the need to post about it. Being a worrisome human, it took me a while to at least partially accept that I didn't need to be everywhere to know how much he cares. He proves it daily.
So, to the ladies who are like me, and worry about this (I'm assuming there are more, at least I hope there are), take a breath. If he lets people know who you are and isn't afraid to show you off in public, you don't have to be all over his social media. He loves you, but hey, it won't hurt to make him post every once in a while, now will it ;)