We all have that one person who we believe knows exactly what they're doing at all points in the day: they have a pristine schedule, they go to school, they work, they do seventeen million different things within the day and somehow balance all of it with grace. Putting it simply, these people have their shit together.
Low and behold, I seem to be one of these such people, or so I have been told. I apparently show all of the signs of having my shit together, except, perhaps, the whole "balance it with grace" thing. Frankly, I don't see what all of the fuss is about. I work hard, do my part in contributing to my future, and hope that it all somehow pans out in the end. If you're also one of these people, you know the struggle of having your shit together, and why it literally blows to be that way. Mainly because things like this tend to happen:
1. You do your work, but no one else does.
While you complete all your work on time and maintain a high standard for yourself, no one else feels the need to. This can happen in a variety of circumstances: actually trying to do well in a class, doing your work efficiently at a job, visiting family members when no one else does. It especially sucks when you struggled with something and eventually came out on top, and then someone who didn't actually try at it brags about how easy it was. You are on top of everything, making the best of your situation, and other people are like:
And your eye kind of twitches, because holy Lord, are you sick of working while everyone else complains about their work instead of actually doing it.
2. Since they don't do their work, you eventually have to do it for them.
Have you ever been in one of those situations where you're happily working on your work, waiting for someone else to dig their own hole by not doing theirs, and eventually, you end up doing their unfinished work? Oh yes, my friend. They don't get reprimanded for the work they didn't do, and it falls to you to pick up their slack. And this doesn't just happen once, oh no. Once they've handed you that project you know they should've gotten done weeks ago, and you look at them like:
And they look back like:
And you know you're screwed.
3. When you say you won't help, but you're expected to do it anyway.
Oh, you need help with the task you were assigned, but I have ten million other things to do? Sorry, brah, but I'm going to have to pass.
When you have your shit together, it subliminally tells other people that you must have time for all of their shit as well. So, when they ask or demand for your help, they somehow think you also have time to organize their shit. Which you don't. Then, when they leave and come back later to see that their shit has still not been miraculously fixed, they get angry. When they ask you why you didn't get their shit done, you're like:
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4. When everyone reminds you all the time.
"Oh my gosh, you always look so together!" or, "Oh, you always know exactly what you're doing," or my personal favorite, "Oh good for you, that's what I expected of you!"
Yes, I know, I do a lot of things, and I seem to be at a point where I can do all of these things and do them well. Does that mean that I don't want to take a little break now and again? No. Does that mean I don't consistently stress about how many things I have to do for who knows how long? No.
It may seem like my shit is stacked in neat little rows for you to admire, but every time you compliment my of the togetherness of said shit, I look like this:
But on the inside, I'm like:
5. And you actually don't have your shit together.
Okay, maybe I have it more together than most, but gimme a break. It's not all sunshine and roses when you have to balance twenty million things. It's even less fun when other people see that you're doing okay and they decide it would be a good idea for them to cash in on that "having your shit together" thing you've got going. And most of the time, everyone else doesn't realize that you're actually like:
So, yeah, it may suck that you have your shit together, but hey, at least you have that going for you. Even if no one else appreciates it (or decides to use it to their advantage instead), you got this. After all, you do have your shit together.
