I am sick and tired of saying we're "talking" because everyone's too scared of commitment. I am sick and tired of liking each other's pictures being signs of flirting. I am sick and tired of relationships being invalid unless it's splashed all over my news feed showing off how we're "couple goals."
I am just sick and tired of this hookup culture.
Since when is going up to someone you like and expressing how you feel not cool? Why isn't going up to the door to pick up your date and maybe meeting the parents not a thing? And what is it with "Netflix and chill?" binding us all to our beds instead of going out to get to know each other? I don't know when these things went out of style or became too traditional, but I miss it.
If you slide in my DMs, I will never consider that a grand romantic gesture. If we become number one best friends on Snapchat, that doesn't mean I'm required to give you nudes. If you retweet my tweets or like my selfies, it won't count as flirting or dropping hints. It's time we all put on our adult pants and stop justifying this hookup culture.
I am worth SO much more than a Netflix and chill session; Than a string along for months at a time until someone doesn't want me anymore, than a side chick position that will never get a promotion, than an Instagram post or a Facebook message. I am worth so much more than everyone's excuse to use social media and this day and age as an excuse to be secretive about feelings and be detached from attachment.
Get up and ask someone out. Face to face. Show people how grown you are and how secure you are in yourself that you have the strength to admit your feelings. Stop going from person to person to fill a void or to sound like a bad-ass to all your friends. Go on an actual date, one that doesn't have a secret vendetta to hookup afterward, and take the time to learn the other person's secrets and spill your own. BE VULNERABLE. Put yourself out there.
I will not let this hookup culture ruin any more of my relationships with people. I will not make my feed look like "couple goals" just to feel justified. I will not sit by the phone waiting for someone to pop up in my notifications.
I refuse to buy into this hookup culture. But that's just me... How about you?
