Out of the kindness of my heart, I have decided it is time to address a few of the reasons why girls will ultimately decide to run away from guys at a party or a bar.
Here's an example of the usual setting: It's a Friday night, my friends and I are relieved that the stress of this week is finally over. We haven't yet considered the mountain of homework piled up on our desks that we will inevitably scramble to do Sunday night. Instead, we focus on two things: What should we wear tonight? Where should we go tonight?
The end goal is to dress up a little, gather up our best friends and find somewhere to spend the late hours of the night and early hours of the morning laughing and enjoying ourselves.
A large part of the success or failure of the night hinges on good company. For many girls, good company means cute boys. And who can blame them? It can feel pretty great to be hit on by that attractive guy you always notice sitting in a lecture hall at your 11 AM on Monday. It's an all around self-esteem booster.
Now imagine our disappointment when not even two hours into the night, I am being forced to send 'SOS' text messages to friends, trying to escape to the bathroom during every and any lull in the conversation and politely (at first) moving away every time you try to put your arm around me, or lean in to kiss me.
Fast forward half an hour and my friends and I are driving back home, much earlier then planned and all because of a few creepy boys.
So what exactly went wrong? Here are four examples of what you did to creep me out/annoy me enough to the point that I left:
1. You kept trying to touch me.
7 out of 10 times, guys are completely innocent or even oblivious as to how touchy they are when they get a bit too drunk. Maybe it's true that you actually can't hear me, but putting your arm around me and attempting to move me closer to you when you can't even remember my name (that I've already reminded you of three times) is most likely going to come off as overly aggressive and creepy. Keep your hands to yourself.
2. We kept having the same conversation over and over again.
Trying to get to know a girl at a party is a good thing. It makes us feel more like people and less like just a potential 'slam piece' at the party. I am also well aware that you're probably trying to have a good night too (aka you've had your fair share of shots), but that doesn't mean it's fun for me to discuss my major and what I want to do with it all night. At this point, it's clear that you're too drunk to even carry a conversation so either go home or leave me alone.
3. You were too insistent that I was hot.
Complimenting a girl is usually a solid route to go. Odds are, I did spend some time working to look nice tonight and although I certainly didn't put all this makeup on for you, it is nice to be told that I look pretty. Where it gets creepy is when you consistently tell me the entire night how I am the hottest girl here. One, that's obviously not true - there are like 100 people here; and two, it doesn't matter how many times you say it, calling me hot is not going to get you laid.
4. I just watched you make out with someone.
This one is without a doubt the thing that will cause me to flee from you in record time. If I just watched you stick your tongue down another girl's throat, save us both the time and do not come over and try to flirt with me. All you'll get from me are a few passive-aggressive jokes, some awkward laughter, and the image of me walking away from you.
If you can't remember not to do these four things, guess what? You're probably too drunk. In every example I gave, the cause is not usually that the guy is actually creepy. He's probably just gone past his limit and hasn't passed out or thrown up yet. Believe it or not, you can have a good time without getting belligerent. Try it sometime and you may even have more success with girls.
