Why First Impressions Shouldn't Matter
Start writing a post
Student Life

Why First Impressions Shouldn't Matter

Why First Impressions Shouldn't Matter

Judging is natural, every time we sit at a restaurant or walk down the street our natural inclination is to observe, compare, and conclude. It seems so irrational. How can we make assumptions and conclusions on people we have never spoken to? I am certainly guilty of it and positive every other human is too.

Often, people will make conclusions about a person solely based off of a tiny introduction or just watching them interact with other people. This happens to me all the time. I've been told that people think that I seem intimidating and unapproachable, but if they actually took the chance to have an actual conversation with me, their whole perspective would change as it has in the past with people I have met. But, if someone assumes you are unapproachable by one interaction, then why would they ever try to interact with you again? Meeting people is hard because I never know how to act. Sometimes I am super sociable and sometimes I hold back; however, that does not mean I should be automatically labeled right off the bat.

First impressions are meaningless because people are deeper than just the name they were given and the way they initially present themselves. In order to actually understand and relate to someone you have to spend time with them and have conversations with them. Imagine how many relationships you are missing out on because you made assumptions based off of observations.

The social media age does not help. Now, people are hiding behind their online selves and using it as their sole form of communication. How someone acts online is not necessarily how they act in real life. It could still go both ways, people act completely fake online or they let go and have the confidence to reveal their true selves.

When it comes to things like job interviews, I get why their first impression of you might be important. Despite this, if you are going to have a job that you love, wouldn't you want to be genuine at the start so you don't have to put on an act every time you go into work? If you want people to know the real you, always be that way! It's up to the other person to look past their first impression of you.

My advice to the people of the world is to become more conscious of those around you. Don't judge someone off of their social media presence or initial observations. Your actions effect other people. It's hard to imagine anyone would be okay with others being completely wrong about the person you are, beyond how you look and act, from an outsider's point of view.

Observe, converse, understand, then conclude.

From Your Site Articles
Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.

A Beginner's Wine Appreciation Course

While I most certainly do not know everything, I feel like I know more than the average 21-year-old about vino, so I wrote this beginner's wine appreciate course to help YOU navigate the wine world and drink like a pro.

White wine being poured into a glass

Keep Reading...Show less
Types of ice cream

Who doesn't love ice cream? People from all over the world enjoy the frozen dessert, but different countries have their own twists on the classic treat.

Keep Reading...Show less
Student Life

100 Reasons to Choose Happiness

Happy Moments to Brighten Your Day!

A man with a white beard and mustache wearing a hat

As any other person on this planet, it sometimes can be hard to find the good in things. However, as I have always tried my hardest to find happiness in any and every moment and just generally always try to find the best in every situation, I have realized that your own happiness is much more important than people often think. Finding the good in any situation can help you to find happiness in some of the simplest and unexpected places.

Keep Reading...Show less

Remember The True Meaning of Christmas

“Where are you Christmas? Why can’t I find you?”

A painting of the virgin Mary, the baby Jesus, and the wise men

It’s everyone’s favorite time of year. Christmastime is a celebration, but have we forgotten what we are supposed to be celebrating? There is a reason the holiday is called Christmas. Not presentmas. Not Santamas. Not Swiftmas. Christmas.

boy standing in front of man wearing santa claus costume Photo by __ drz __ on Unsplash

What many people forget is that there is no Christmas without Christ. Not only is this a time to spend with your family and loved ones, it is a time to reflect on the blessings we have gotten from Jesus. After all, it is His birthday.

Keep Reading...Show less
Golden retriever sat on the sand with ocean in the background
Photo by Justin Aikin on Unsplash

Anyone who knows me knows how much I adore my dog. I am constantly talking about my love for her. I attribute many of my dog's amazing qualities to her breed. She is a purebred Golden Retriever, and because of this I am a self-proclaimed expert on why these are the best pets a family could have. Here are 11 reasons why Goldens are the undisputed best dog breed in the world.

Keep Reading...Show less

Subscribe to Our Newsletter

Facebook Comments