Why 'Everything Happens For A Reason' Is True

Why 'Everything Happens For A Reason' Is True

I found my best friends the summer after high school...and it's the best thing that ever happened to me

"It is when our plans go 'wrong' that wonderful,
Unforeseen things are allowed to occur."
"Everything comes at the right time.
Be patient."
"To have someone understand your mind
Is a different kind of intimacy."

Right at the time when I thought my whole world was crumbling and coming to a halt, did i find my best friends. Sure, I had groups of friends through high school that I could depend on, but this one was different.

We had all walked out (mostly) separate ways throughout those 4 years and had only smiled at each other in the hallway, or bad had been friends here and there, or didn't even know the others existed until the summer after senior year.

That summer, everything changed.

And when I say everything, I mean everything. Friend groups, relationship status, schools, living situation (moving to college.) Then, the unexpected happened.

That summer, everything changed.

9 individuals whose paths unexpectedly crossed one summer night, decided to come together.

As a group, we are the loudest, funniest, riskiest, most loving batch of people I've ever met. It baffles me how in such a short time span we all took to each other listening to one another's problems, sharing things we wouldn't normally share with someone we had just met, and connecting on a deep level.

Never had I ever imagined that my summer would do a complete 360 from what it could've been. In just 3 short months, we have taken dozens of trips to Buffalo Wild Wings, multiple drives down river road, spent countless hours around a bonfire, or in someone's backyard playing bags. To endless conversations about miscellaneous topics-whether they be serious or not at all.

Within our rag-tag group I bet you can't name one thing we all had in common before becoming friends. I have yet to meet a group of people who are also willing to say up until 4 A.M. talking about just anything and everything.

My favorite thing about our friend group is that when we're together I forget to check my phone, it's like nothing else in the world really matters. Work tomorrow? Who cares, at least you're here with friends. Plus, that just means you'll have more money for Buffalo Wild Wings. Rough breakup? I know that I have 5 other guys who will be my best friends, and a whole world full of boys who would be a potential boyfriend. Lose your keys? Know that you have 9 people who are willing to help you look for them until they are found. Having a hard time transitioning into college? What's better than a group of friends to come visit one weekend.

These instances are all reasons why I have a never-ending love for my group of friends. Marriage, the future and the topic of staying friends well int our old age has been the topic of our conversations recently. Before college, our conversations revolved around college and the new opportunity and world we all have yet to explore.

But now, not even a semester into college and we're all talking about the future. There's a sort of understanding that our friend group has one that I've tried to explain but struggle to find the words.

I'm a firm believer that everything happens for a reason, and we always question how and why we didn't find each other in high school, but there's a reason as to why we didn't.

Maybe it's because we wouldn't have been as close, or potentially because we didn't think we had anything in common.

Whatever that reason may be, I like to believe we found each other at just the right time.

There's a connection between us all, that I have again, tried to explain to others, but struggle to find the words. We all just get each other. I'm so grateful that we found each other when we did.

This past summer was one of the best and worst ones I have ever experienced. Because of our friend group I am able to have not one, not two or three, but 9 other people I know I can talk to no matter the situation, time of day or night, and no matter the distance between us.

I have a good memory to outweigh any bad memory in my mind, and I know I'll always have 9 people rooting for me and supporting me no matter what I do.

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I'm A Woman And You Can't Convince Me Breastfeeding In Public Is OK In 2019

Sorry, not sorry.


Lately, I have seen so many people going off on social media about how people shouldn't be upset with mothers breastfeeding in public. You know what? I disagree.

There's a huge difference between being modest while breastfeeding and just being straight up careless, trashy and disrespectful to those around you. Why don't you try popping out a boob without a baby attached to it and see how long it takes for you to get arrested for public indecency? Strange how that works, right?

So many people talking about it bring up the point of how we shouldn't "sexualize" breastfeeding and seeing a woman's breasts while doing so. Actually, all of these people are missing the point. It's not sexual, it's just purely immodest and disrespectful.

If you see a girl in a shirt cut too low, you call her a slut. If you see a celebrity post a nude photo, you call them immodest and a terrible role model. What makes you think that pulling out a breast in the middle of public is different, regardless of what you're doing with it?

If I'm eating in a restaurant, I would be disgusted if the person at the table next to me had their bare feet out while they were eating. It's just not appropriate. Neither is pulling out your breast for the entire general public to see.

Nobody asked you to put a blanket over your kid's head to feed them. Nobody asked you to go feed them in a dirty bathroom. But you don't need to basically be topless to feed your kid. Growing up, I watched my mom feed my younger siblings in public. She never shied away from it, but the way she did it was always tasteful and never drew attention. She would cover herself up while doing it. She would make sure that nothing inappropriate could be seen. She was lowkey about it.

Mindblowing, right? Wait, you can actually breastfeed in public and not have to show everyone what you're doing? What a revolutionary idea!

There is nothing wrong with feeding your baby. It's something you need to do, it's a part of life. But there is definitely something wrong with thinking it's fine to expose yourself to the entire world while doing it. Nobody wants to see it. Nobody cares if you're feeding your kid. Nobody cares if you're trying to make some sort of weird "feminist" statement by showing them your boobs.

Cover up. Be modest. Be mindful. Be respectful. Don't want to see my boobs? Good, I don't want to see yours either. Hard to believe, I know.

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The Cliche 'Follow Your Heart' Is Probably The Most Important Cliche Of All Time

Our heart or our brain? What should we listen to first?


In life, we are constantly faced with tough decisions concerning relationships, college, career, marriage … the list of decisions we must make in a lifetime is endless. This means, however, that there are plenty of moments in our life where we will put into question our very own intuition, where we will waste time going back and forth between our mind and our soul. So then we ask ourselves when faced with a decision, what do we listen to? What should we listen to? Our brain or our heart?

Yeah, okay so following your heart is probably the most cliche thing you've ever heard. Our younger selves constantly heard the saying all the time growing up. Did we act on it? Maybe, but not in the ways that we should be acting on it now. Give it a chance and just think about it for a second.

I've realized that as you get older, it becomes harder to just listen to yourself. There are distractions all around you. Some come from the comments of your peers, some come from the devices in your hands, some come from the news headlines you see in bold. With this, you find yourself struggling to find a balance between thinking about something and just doing it. You find yourself unable to decipher what exactly you should listen to. You suddenly become lost within your own little world.

Who would you be if you didn't follow your heart? Would your life be completely different than it is now?

If we think about how we got to the place we're at today, we simultaneously also think about those decisions I mentioned earlier. And those decisions were probably mostly made from our own intuition, not from logistical thinking. The sad part is we don't even realize this, and we don't even realize how important this is.

How did you choose a college? Deciding where you're going to spend the next four years of your life, working towards a career is a big deal. Some will describe their decision as a feeling they got when they stepped on campus. Yes, the tuition was a factor along with retention rates and undergraduate programs and study abroad opportunities, but the one factor that truly mattered was how they felt so at home, while in reality being so far away from their hometown. So, this decision was made from a feeling, this decision was made from the heart.

Relationships. When deciding to tell someone you love them, you're following your heart. When deciding to commit to someone in a relationship or in a friendship or whatever it may be, you're following your heart. You're putting everything on the line because of how you feel. Nothing else matters. Just the two of you, together, happy and in love. And because of that, because of the magnitude of that one feeling, you listen to your heart first and figure out everything else later. Now, being able to have that, being able to experience this type of love, well that's just one of the best feelings in the world.

We can even consider a career. When trying to figure out what you want to do with the rest of your life, you are looking for that feeling, for that career to find you. You are searching for that inevitable inclination telling you, you're meant to do something in this world. You dream big imagining yourself doing this one job that you feel so passionately about, changing the world and inspiring others to do the same. You are motivated by this one field so much that you decide to do it for the rest of your life. If that's not following your heart, then I don't know what is.

It seems so obvious. We hear "follow your heart" all the time. But do we ever actually realize how much impact a heart can have on one's life? No. And that's why it's maybe not so obvious. Because we're told to follow our hearts, but we never actually take the time to comprehend it. And so, we live our lives letting this concept of intuition before cognition become underrated. We let it secretly impact some of our most important life decisions without even ever realizing it.

So realize it. From now on don't just listen. Act. Follow your heart as much as you can and never look back.

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